This week, you got a taste of the complete system for recovering from Nice Guy Syndrome and becoming a confident person. Taking on conflict and confrontation assertively instead of people-pleasing or avoiding Finding the third option that’s neither Nice nor Nasty – the confident option Overhauling your belief system and installing a new set of principles that guide you without Read More

You’re at the same old cross-roads again. You can either be “nice”, which usually means sacrificing what you want and hiding your truth, leading to resentment, loss of opportunities, and lower self worth. Or, you can be a jerk, and selfishly do what you want while hurting everyone else and hating yourself for being a bad person. It feels like Read More

You’re like a chameleon, changing who you are to suit the environment. If you’re with your partner, you try to be the easygoing guy. When you’re hanging with friends, you try to be the cool funny guy. In a meeting with your boss, you try to appear conscientious, intelligent and reliable. You worry what people will think, adjust to what Read More

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I wanted to acknowledge a specific and unusual type of Nice Guy I’ve encounted recently. He’s the one who got into some trouble when he was younger. Most Nice Guys have been people-pleasers for as long as they can remember. Whatever childhood or teenage rebellions they got into, it was always discreet and controlled, carefully avoiding trouble. Until recently, I Read More

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Click here to access my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building course (worth $130) and connect with like-minded men, all for free! Why Building Confidence Alone Takes So Damn Long In this final part of the Nice Guy recovery series, I want to talk about something that almost nobody likes to admit: trying to build confidence on your own usually Read More

Click here to access my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building course (worth $130) and connect with like-minded men, all for free! Approval Seeking and Validation: The Operating System That’s Ruining Your Life This is part two of the Nice Guy recovery series, and now we’re getting into one of the most destructive forces behind the whole pattern: approval seeking Read More

There’s a manipulation technique known as gaslighting, which essentially means you make someone doubt their own reality. When you’re being nice all the time, what you’re doing is making people doubt the possibility that you have so-called bad qualities. They start to see you as perfect—which also ruins their self-worth when they’re around you. They start to see themselves as Read More

If you don’t show people who you really are and let them fall in love with you, you are stealing their life. Instead, let people hate you. Let them see who you really are—what you really feel—what’s beyond the nice performance. And let them decide for themselves whether or not they like you. Stop fucking manipulating people. It’s unfair, and Read More

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This is for the people who’ve been into Red Pill stuff. Stop and ask yourself: How’s it going? How’s your mental health? How’s your confidence? How’s your satisfaction with life? How healthy are your relationships? Has your career taken off? Are you doing well? If you are — great. Stop listening to me. Keep doing what you’re doing. If not… Read More