There’s a manipulation technique known as gaslighting, which essentially means you make someone doubt their own reality.

When you’re being nice all the time, what you’re doing is making people doubt the possibility that you have so-called bad qualities.

They start to see you as perfect—which also ruins their self-worth when they’re around you.

They start to see themselves as flawed in comparison, because you always seem so nice and happy all the time.

Overall, this leads people to question their understanding of reality—and of life.

If they’re not sure what you really are, they start becoming unsure of what they really are… of what anything really is.

By playing this false act—and convincing them of it—you’re taking away their ability to accurately reassess reality.

Worst of all—and I see this happen all the time—this can lead to a long-term friendship, or even a marriage. You can keep someone strung along for years on this act.

And what are you doing?

You’re stealing their life.

Because if they don’t really like you for who you actually are, and you’re married to them for five, ten years—essentially, you’re committing a very serious kind of fraud.

Honestly, I’m surprised there aren’t laws against this.
I guess it would be too hard to monitor.

But if you don’t show people who you really are—and let them fall in love with that—you are stealing their life.

How is that nice?

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