People shout at each other and send insults and do nasty things by text message, even though they know this is not the most effective way to communicate—and they are capable of better communication. If you take that into account, and the overwhelming tidal wave of evidence that people are constantly behaving against their own best interests, then you have Read More

Think of someone getting into a war in the YouTube comments—that’s happened to me, by the way. Guilty as charged, right? Think about that: you’re on there with other anonymous people, probably half of which are bots at this point, and you’re going back and forth, all-caps insults and so on. It’s not like you don’t know of anything else Read More

People who struggle to succeed in some area are often friends with, and surrounded by, other people who also struggle in that area, they just swap stories and pat each other on the back. They console each other with justifications for why they all suck at something—We’ve all got this, we’ve all been through this. We’re all limited by our Read More

I remember hearing that the reason a song gets stuck in your head is because a certain part of your brain sees it as a problem to be solved. You always get a song stuck in your head when you can’t remember all the parts of it. Your brain keeps going over the song, hoping that by repeating it, you’ll Read More

This is how I stop myself from overthinking: If I can’t point to it, if there’s nothing I can actually do about it right here and right now, then I know the thought is bullshit. It might sound very legitimate. It might come with that sense of urgency, like I have to do something about it, but if there’s really Read More

I wouldn’t actually be serving you if I always told you what to do. In fact, the only thing I’d tell you to do is to decide for yourself. You already know what you really want from life. I want you to figure out what you should do on your own. Childhood development goals are about doing things without permission Read More

This is an excerpt from a recent Ask Dan Anything session at Brojo Skool. Dan Munro discusses strategies for overcoming rumination, particularly in reference to an ex partner, emphasizing that focusing on it can exacerbate the problem. He compares rumination to a song stuck in one’s head, suggesting that repeated attempts to solve it are futile. Munro advises redirecting attention Read More

An interesting insight came up in my Brotherhood coaching group last week. We identified a peculiar phenomena: we noticed that most of us simultaneously hold two, otherwise contradictory, beliefs. We understand that our mind can lie to us by having thoughts that are not true, and yet, in everyday life, we believe pretty much every thought we have. It’s like Read More

In yesterday’s post I talked about how freedom is the opposite of safety. Today I wanted to make a comment about safety. Have you ever really thought about what is safety? It’s inevitable that we’re all going to die. And even if you live a totally closeted comfortable existence, you can still have a heart attack or choke on a Read More

I saw on the news the other day that New Zealanders had spent $1.4 million in 1 week on lottery tickets. $1.4 million that could have been invested in themselves or at the very least spent on something sensible, wasted on pointless gambling. This is the human drive to seek the quick fix, the instant gratification, the dream of putting Read More

We are all prone to being manipulated, no one is completed immune to the influence of others. But you’ll have noticed that some people can get under your armour better than others, particularly family or people you admire. In this video, I talk about the biases and beliefs we have that allow people to manipulate us, like deferring to authority Read More

In this video, we explore the hidden drives that control your behaviour, while you live under the illusion of what you think you want. Read More