Click here to access my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building course (worth $130) and connect with like-minded men, all for free! The Hidden Fear Behind Erectile Dysfunction: A Deep Dive Into Men’s Sexual Shame This might be one of the most vulnerable pieces I’ve ever created, because today we’re diving into the psychological reality behind erectile dysfunction, performance anxiety, Read More

If you find that your dating life is boring, your sex life is boring—if you’re surrounded by men or tend to attract men like this—there’s also work that you need to do. For a guy to be healthy and masculine, he needs to be with a healthy feminine. If you’re constantly taking control, not allowing him to make mistakes, not Read More

Often, a guy grows up and he’s got no idea when it’s okay to be sexual. He only knows that it’s okay to be sensitive and caring. He doesn’t know when to lead, so he goes for the safest option which is to do nothing, to be passive and wait to be led to follow. Women are also ashamed of Read More

It’s become very difficult for a man to know what’s safe around sex, because there’s no one here to teach us. You’re not born knowing what safety is. I don’t know why that’s expected of men. Men are supposed to know the difference between flirting and harassment; the difference between foreplay and assault. However, no one is teaching them what Read More

You’re taught the rules around what’s right and wrong sexually, and people will repeat those rules to you. They’ll label you as things like “slut,” “frigid,” or “virgin”. They’ll give you labels that clearly indicate whether or not you’re doing well according to those standards—such as being slut-shamed, for example. There’s nothing in the laws of nature that says it’s Read More

You are not alone. In fact, you’re in the vast vast majority. I made a course, precisely because of how common this is. There are very few people walking the earth today who are sexually shameless. Yet, you’ll feel alone. You’ll feel that you have to hide these things and that you can’t talk about them. You feel immense guilt Read More

In most places around the world, sexual education is very grim. If you go to your average public school almost anywhere in the world, and you try to learn about sex, what you get is a cutaway medical image of what someone looks like on the inside and that’s about it. In some countries, if you’re lucky, you get told Read More

I’ve got a couple of exercises that I want you to do to explore your sexual shame. First, I want you to get a piece of paper and write down everything that you can remember about where you learned about sex: From whom did you learn it from, and what kind of right and wrong messaging did you get? What Read More

It’s become very difficult for a man to know what’s safe around sex, because there’s no one to teach us. You’re not born knowing what safety is. I don’t know why that’s expected of men. And yet, men are now supposed to know the difference between flirting and harassment as well as the difference between foreplay and assault. And yet, Read More

Jealousy shows us that we feel threatened. Often, this threat manifests as fear of losing something, therefore we are possessive. Sexual history jealousy (often known as Retroactive Jealousy) is telling us that you are possessive around your girlfriend. Part of you is trying to keep her to yourself, and so you see her previous experience as a threat to that. Read More

This is an excerpt from my course: Shamelessness: Unbreakable Social Confidence Overcoming Sexual Shame: Embracing Acceptance and Letting Go of Performance Pressure Sexual shame is a deeply ingrained issue that many struggle with, often in silence. The pressure to perform, to meet certain standards, or to be “perfect” in the bedroom can lead to anxiety, physical symptoms, and a disconnection Read More

This is an excerpt from my  course: Shamelessness: Develop Unbreakable Social Confidence What Is Sexual Shame, and How Did You Develop It? Welcome back! Let’s dive right into a topic many of us wrestle with but rarely talk about—sexual shame. We’re going to explore: What sexual shame is. How it manifests differently for everyone. Where it comes from and how Read More