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Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

Palliative nurse Bronnie Ware recorded the top 5 regrets her patients expressed most when on their deathbeds. This is a lesson we do not heed often enough. Why wait until you’re dying to realise how you should be living? In this video, I explore those top 5 and give my feedback on how to avoid them. Bronnie Ware’s website: https://bronnieware.com/ Read More

Empty calories: The REAL poison

I first heard the term “empty calories” from my first ever diet and nutrition book, referencing things like white bread, crackers, diet soda, and other such foods that might fill you up but have little nutritional value. Empty calories are possibly more dangerous than “bad” calories (e.g. food high in saturated fats) because they go under the radar. At least Read More

Top 5 Social Confidence Books

Today we’re going to be reviewing the top five books that I’ve ever read on how to build confidence by being more honest. A specific little niche there, but ultimately I think this is the only topic worth focusing on if you want to build strong social confidence. It’s all about learning what being yourself actually looks like in real life. Read More

The Challenge That Tested My Values

A guest post by Anthony Zhou In November 2018, I had a situation where I had to choose between my values or a potential positive outcome if I ignored my values. In self-development, the idea of values and value-based living are common concepts, and I guess they can be considered the building blocks (to identify your core values click here). Read More

Gaming Disorder: Video Game Obsession

Today’s question comes from a guy who wants some help with video games. This post/video is for guys and girls who play a lot of video games and they’re wondering whether or not it’s healthy to do so. It’s come up for a couple of my clients now and I want to address it. One of them has written through to me Read More

Self Sabotage: The 3 Lies That Rule Your Life

In this post I’m going to explore the 3 biggest deceptions you play on yourself to create a pattern of self-sabotage, and how to correct these so you can be more honest, confident and productive. The first lie is your prediction of the future, which you use to determine your decisions. The second lie is the present hidden intention behind your actions. And the third lie is the story you make up about what happened in the past, to explain your behaviour to yourself. We'll explore these lies today, and then look at what you can do to free yourself from this self-deception. Read More

How to Stay Cool in High-Pressure Situations

THE RAPIST WAS ON THE LOOSE… Neill*, a serial kidnapper and potential rapist, had absconded from his Home Detention address. There was no GPS monitoring on his electronic ankle bracelet, so we had no idea where he’d gone. All we knew was what the forensic psychologist had warned us about when Neill was first released from prison – “If he Read More

What 100 People Pleasers Say They Have in Common

This People Pleaser survey was conducted over the months of November-December in 2017, as part of market research for my new coaching program The Honesty Effect: 3X Your Social Confidence to Free Yourself from People Pleasing in Just 12 Weeks. Over 100 people responded to the survey, and I’ve analysed the results with my feedback here. If you identify as Read More

Our Crippling Addiction to Comfort

We may all want to be comfortable – something we often refer to as happiness – but even more important to us is the feeling that we know what’s going on. The devastating truth about us humans is we’d rather die in suffering than risk the unknown. Read More

My Top Confidence Resources

  Recently I ran a seminar called My Life Story, where I shared a range of stories from my life about the lessons in confidence I had learned over the last 20 years. As part of this seminar, I described the 6 Core Values of Confidence – which are the foundation of my 3X Model. So, as a follow up Read More

5 Value Conflicts that Freeze Your Decision-Making

You want to do the “right” thing, it’s just sometimes “right” thing isn’t clear. The confusion is so intense that we end up doing nothing at all. Here's how to break a values conflict and get moving on that tough decision. Read More

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