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A client of mine has a father who is extremely difficult to deal with. He’s belligerant, stubborn, argumentative, defiant, bigoted, and just generally negative about everything all the time. If you say Up, he insists on Down. If you suggest Right, he’ll argue that Left is best. If you give him what he asked for, he’ll complain that it wasn’t Read More

Watch the video above, listen on your favourite podcast platform below, or scroll down for the written summary Spotify: Soundcloud: Apple Podcasts: Amazon Audio:   Most people who struggle with assertiveness have the same misunderstanding: they think being assertive means becoming a selfish prick who dominates people, hurts feelings, and starts fights. That misunderstanding is exactly what keeps them passive, Read More

Over the last week, we explored the principles of self-respect, how to not just set but enforce boundaries, and what confident people do in the face of getting a bad reaction to their assertiveness. This is but a small taste of everything you need to know to become a self-respecting person who can protect themselves and their loved ones, set Read More

When we ask what does a confident person look like when it comes to setting and enforcing strong boundaries to guarantee self-respect, there’s one factor that stands out: They can handle a BAD reaction. If you’re still reading this email series, odds are you’re someone who struggles with the blow ups, guilt-trips, accusations, crocodile tears, and other manipulative reactions to Read More

You’ve clearly expressed (or at least indirectly hinted) what you want, or don’t want. They KNOW what hurts you, and what you’d prefer they do instead. And still, they Just. Keep. Doing. It. There’s a heartbreaking truth I’m forced to face in my sessions with coaching clients: They think the “hard part” is SETTING the boundaries, i.e. confronting people and Read More

Which of these painful things happened to you this month: Interrupted like what you were saying wasn’t important? Mocked, teased or bullied for having normal human reactions? Insulted and criticized like a child by someone who’s nicer to everyone else? Had your ideas and suggestions dismissed as if they were stupid? Ignored and treated like you didn’t even exist? If Read More

Heat rising in your cheeks. Chest and shoulders tensing up. Heart pounding. Nausea. This is how most of us feel when a conversation starts turning towards conflict, or when we know we need to confront someone and we’re scared they’re going to react badly. Most of us will chicken out. The few who do confront often raise their voice and Read More

Watch the video above, listen to the episode on your favourite platform below, or scroll down to read the written version. Soundcloud: Spotify: Apple Podcast: How to Say No Without Feeling Like a Bad Person Introduction: The Problem with Saying Yes In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about how to say no with assertiveness, even if you’re scared of Read More

This short, little special episode is not for new listeners. If you just found my work, this will probably sound unnecessary, harsh or confusing, so come back to it later or don’t. But if you’ve been listening to me for a long time, months, years, this one’s for you. I want to be very clear about my tone before we Read More

When dealing with people hurting you, many of you make the mistake of trying to categorise them as generally Good or Bad. If you label someone as Good, you will then make excuses and exceptions for their bad behaviour. You will avoid confrontation with them, not wanting to ruin the good relationship you have with this Good Person. You will Read More

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