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It’s not your emotions’ fault

When I’m first coaching someone and I ask them about why they’re struggling with their relationships or career or whatever it is, more times than not they will blame their emotions at some point.   Often, anxiety gets the blame, or fear. Sometimes anger. Sometimes confusion. And after a few sessions, shame is often pointed at as the culprit.   Read More

The Problem With Labels and Diagnoses: The Truth About Mental Health

Say goodbye to not feeling good enough with my Shamelessness course  Labels like “autistic” and “anxious” and “ADHD” might seem like helpful categorisations that lead people to the correct treatment for their illnesses and disorders. But labelling people based on their psychological or physical symptoms is a slippery slope. There are multiple downsides to allowing yourself to be labelled, and Read More

The problem with Putin

I don’t know much about world politics, foreign policy, and all the stuff that surrounds the Russian invasion of the Ukraine. I’ve heard bits and pieces about old Soviet Union and ore deposits and uranium deposits and all kinds of reasons why someone might want to possess the Ukraine. I don’t know enough about any of that shit to pretend Read More

“Minimalism is Toxic” – DEBUNKED

In his blog post https://www.petershallard.com/why-minimalism-is-toxic-for-you-and-your-business/ Peter Shallard makes a case for the idea that miminalism is just trendy counter-culture practiced by bored and wealthy wannabes and that materialism is not only more enjoyable but more practical, particularly for new entrepreneurs. In this video I review the post and debunk his views on minimalism. For more on minimalism, get the CORRECT Read More

life is a game of chess

My latest obsession is playing chess. It’s good for the brain, competitive (allowing me to keep my confrontational emotions sharp), and well-suited to the permanent lockdown environment of COVID-ravaged Czechia. The more I play… and lose… the more I see that chess is really a metaphor for life. So many of the principles and experiences I’ve encountered in this game Read More

It’s time to stop blaming your parents

Do you have ‘bad parents’? Many people think they have had the worst parents ever, and sometimes they’re actually right about that. Having abusive parents can lead to suffering from a very bad childhood. As we grow up, the damage we get from this affects us every day. We all have a tendency to blame our inadequacies and faults on Read More

Does everyone need a coach to feel good enough?

The Cucumber Talks podcast reviewed some of my work and ideas recently, and challenged me on a few things. Today I address their questions: – Does someone always need a coach? – Does self-development keep you trapped in feeling not good enough? (Shouldn’t we just accept who we are as we are?) – Do I really believe it’s all mind Read More

Courage in the face of fear

Guest post by Anthony Zhou I work with young offenders and even before I started this role, I knew that there was a risk that I could be assaulted. During training, we were informed of staff being assaulted in another precinct. It was always in the back of mind that it could happen to me; it wasn’t a matter of Read More

Feeling emotionally numb? The problem of ‘learned psychopathy’

Watch the video above, or read the written version below It can be pretty common for modern-day men to feel like they don’t actually have emotions. I felt like that for most of my life. I had suppressed my emotions so much that I started to believe that I genuinely wasn’t experiencing them. It was actually a tragedy – in Read More

Control freaks: how to handle things going wrong

watch the video above, or read the transcript below Today’s post is for the control freaks amongst us; the people who find it really upsetting when things don’t go to plan, when something goes wrong, or when what they had scheduled gets disrupted by something outside of their control. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m one of these Read More

My battle with being a “highly sensitive person”

watch the video above or read the transcript below I’ve been meaning to do this video/post for a while now. Sometimes I think that it’s helpful if I’m open and honest about my weaknesses and failures and the things I struggle with, because sometimes when I create content, I give the impression that I’ve got everything ‘sorted’ and that’s absolutely Read More

Entropy: Fighting Off Death Every Day

Watch the video above, or read the transcription below Entropy, as described by the second law of thermodynamics, is a concept in physics that describes how everything slowly goes to disorder. Today, we’re going to talk about how this practically affects your life and your confidence on a daily basis. I’m no quantum physicist – I’m not an expert who Read More

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