Say goodbye to not feeling good enough with my Shamelessness course  The law of reversed-effort implies that the harder we try to “get” something, the less likely we are to succeed. Each of us has experienced this phenomenon, especially in dating/relationships, where the more you want something and more effort and stress you put into getting it, the more it Read More

3X your confidence this year with my Masterclass “Hard times create strong men; strong men create good times; good times create weak men; weak men create hard times” This is the cycle that civilisations go through over the course of history. It is inevitable. However, we don’t often discuss how INDIVIDUALS also go through this cycle, and how the sensation Read More

WATCH THE VIDEO ABOVE FOR A SHORT OVERVIEW OF THE RESPECT PROGRAM Okay, here’s the down low…. In August/September 2022, I’m getting a carefully selected crew of awesome men together to show them exactly how to respect themselves, assert their boundaries, and build better relationships through increased self-confidence. I’m going to help them develop the confidence they need to stand Read More

Get relationship coaching with Dan by contacting him personally dan@brojo.org Nice Guys tend to be very caring, empathic and nurturing. Unfortunately, this can often create a real problem in relationships where their partner has long-term issues of mental or physical suffering. Dan’s Top Resources Books Dan has 3 bestselling non-fiction books available in both written and audio form: The Naked Read More

Get coaching by getting in touch dan@brojo.org Performance anxiety in the bedroom is very common for Nice Guys and people pleasers. In this livestream, I tackle how to overcome erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm, and all the other anxiety related issues men experience in the bedroom. Dan’s Top Resources Books Dan has 3 bestselling non-fiction books available in Read More

Had a conversation with a coaching client yesterday that I think applies to everyone. He has a habit of stopping whatever he’s doing whenever it goes “wrong” (i.e. failure, or doesn’t meet expectations, or he feels confused), and then he reassesses his approach to identify what he should do differently. Lots of people do this. They think they must be Read More

The number 1 threat to any relationship – platonic, professional or romantic – is CONTEMPT. Contempt is the feeling of looking down on someone from an arrogant height of superiority; seeing them as inferior, worth less, or even worthless. Dr. John Gottman’s research on relationships found that contempt was the best predictor of divorce. But this can be prevented by Read More

Here are 5 of the most frequently asked questions I get as a coach. I’ve challenged myself to try answer these in a single sentence! Not really possible, but gotta post something today, right? 1) How do I stop being so jealous of my partner’s sexual history? Realise that jealousy is actually a surface-level reaction to deeper core issues around Read More

After coaching for 8 years (and rehabilitating staff and managing offenders for about 7 years prior to that), I’ve been blessed to discover some of people’s deepest and darkest secrets. Not only that, after having literally thousands of people tell me what’s really going on behind the scenes, I’ve also seen patterns and themes. There are a LOT of secrets Read More

Rant.. The main reason the big issues never get resolved is because each side refuses to have empathy for the other. In the latest – the Roe v Wade abortion snafu in USA – it’s pretty clear that whoever feels strongly about this doesn’t give 2 shits about why the other side also feels strongly. They just make ungenerous assumptions Read More

For more about my coaching, get in touch dan@brojo.org One of the biggest invisible issues in self development is that people are trying to solve problems at a high level when they still have basic problems that need attention first. As a coach, I often have clients coming to me for dating advice when they haven’t even secured full time Read More

Made it another year! This was the toughest one yet, by far. Having our first child and choosing to be a fully engaged dad meant that for the first time since I started my coaching business hasn’t grown. We’ve just plateaued to stay alive, basically, but that was a conscious choice and now that I see the connection I have Read More