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Introducing Physical Contact: How to Get Comfortable with Touching People

Check out the full Building Rapport: Communication Skills to Surpass Small Talk course This video is an excerpt from my course Building Rapport: Going beyond small talk with advanced communication skills. If you like what you see in the video, you want to see the whole video, or you want to see the whole course, check out the link above. Read More

[Short] Why you keep forgetting your goals

One lesson I keep learning the hard way is that memory cannot be relied on when it comes to confidence and self development. I’ve got a little hypothesis about this, I dunno how scientifically accurate it is… The hippocampus and the amygdala are right next to each other in the brain. One controls memory and the other controls fear (simplistically Read More

[Short] Why plans always fail eventually

One of the best pieces of business advice I ever got, was this: What got you here won’t get you there. At the time, my business was stagnating. I was working hard but only just getting by. And my business coach at the time helped me see that I had reached the peak of the “level” I was on, and Read More

The Coaching Ponzi Scheme

I have to write this just to get it off my chest. As a coach, I have participated in many training programs and hired a number of different coaches for myself over the years. While I don’t regret most of these purchases, there are a few that left me feeling, well… off. Most of my early coaches had “other” clients, Read More

[Short] Avoiding confrontation is selfish!

To avoid conflict, many people use the limiting belief that they’re actually doing a kindness to others by keeping their disagreements and dislikes to themselves, like it’s noble to be agreeable. You might think by avoiding confrontations and not standing up for yourself that you’re only really creating a problem for yourself, that you’re the only one that has to Read More

[Short] There are no solutions; only trade-offs

The other day I saw political commentator Konstantin Kisin talking about how there are no solutions, there are just “trade-offs”. He was talking about how when you vote for one policy, you must accept there will be negative downsides (i.e. different problems), and that all policies have this issue. I’ve never thought about it this way before, and it’s so Read More

The Importance of Authenticity: Staying True to Yourself While Building Rapport

Full Transcript This video is an excerpt from my upcoming course on building rapport, going beyond small talk with advanced communication skills. If you like what you see in this video, check out the link to the full course below: Check out the full Building Rapport: Communication Skills to Surpass Small Talk course here: https://www.udemy.com/course/building-rapport-communication-skills-to-surpass-small-talk/?referralCode=232A411425049ABDA5AA In this video, we’re going Read More

[Short] There’s no such thing as a “small lie”

One of the reasons I’m so hard on people about being honest about everything, including not telling little white lies, is because of what I call “seed lies”. So you tell a little lie that doesn’t seem like a big deal in the moment, and taken out of context it doesn’t seem like a particularly harmful thing to say (or Read More

[Short] Stop walking on eggshells

One of my common “types” of coaching clients are Nice Guy Husbands. And one of their regular issues is that they “walk on eggshells” around their partners (and others). Walking on eggshells is the term we use to describe moderating ourselves, taking extra care, and holding back what we really think around certain people who we believe will react “badly” Read More

[Short] Why living with integrity doesn’t feel THAT good

If you’ve spent your whole life chasing highs and instant gratification, you might find that switching over to living with integrity is kind of boring or even a little unfulfilling at first. After a lifetime spent seeking intensely pleasurable emotional experiences, and following these with despairing lows and crashes, solid principled living can seem a little dull in comparison. And Read More

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