Why Nice Guys breathe quietly

When I was in my first relationship many many years ago, as a full-blown nice guy, there was a weird habit that I picked up. I’d breathe very quietly at night. I noticed it happening but I didn’t know why it was happening. So when I was laying next to my partner I’d try to make sure that my breathing Read More

Stop looking for The One

My wife and I were talking about our previous dating experiences and our first long-term relationships. One thing we have in common is we both thought that our first partner was The One, like we had struck it lucky and just nailed it first time in. Now, of course, we’re not with those people anymore… I’m pretty sure. We can Read More

Social Confidence for Introverts

New full length video: Let’s talk about social confidence specifically for introverts. We’re doing a special mention for introverts for a particular reason, and that is, extroverts can still have confidence issues but it generally leads them to do things that actually create social abundance, like showing off for performing really highly impressing people with their skills. So even if Read More

Last Man Standing: The middle-aged loneliness problem

A friend of mine’s in his 40s now, and he was complaining about being the “last man standing”. He never got married or had kids, and now feels like all his friends have slowly disappeared. I don’t know if this happens for women as much, but for men we start to lose our friendships as we get older. People build Read More

Being Out Of Harm’s Way: Cautiousness Of Your Own Welfare

Guest post by FATJOE Publishing Photo by Edward Jenner:   Are you taking enough measures to keep yourself safe? Although you might know to lock your doors at night and know how to avoid insecurities in a relationship, there are plenty of other things you need to consider. What about online security? What about the safety of your assets? Read More

How to deal with parents who put you down

A girl wrote into me asking why her mother kept comparing her to other people and destroying her self-esteem. My answer got a huge response on Quora because it turns out lots of people have mean parents who make them feel bad about themselves. In this video, we explore why this happens, how to recognise it, and what you can Read More

How OCD and People-Pleasing Work Together

Guest post by Cameron Staudacher, Presented by BetterHelp.   People-pleasing and conflict-avoidance behaviors are commonly reported in those diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), as well as those diagnosed with a similar condition, obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD). The strong compulsions associated with OCD may prevent someone from asserting their wants or needs, or it may make it difficult for them to do Read More

Attachment Styles Explained: How Your Childhood Impacts Your Adult Relationships

Guest post by Cameron Staudacher, Presented by BetterHelp.   Did you know scientists believe how you bond with parents or caregivers as a child influences how you form interpersonal attachments as an adult? Attachment theory asserts that the manner in which you were raised and how close you were to the people raising you might be among the most significant factors Read More

Achieve More in Your Career by Boosting Emotional Intelligence

Guest post by Cameron Staudacher, Presented by BetterHelp.   Emotional intelligence (EI) is an increasingly popular framework to describe thoughts and behaviors that generally fall within “soft skill” categories in the workplace. Those with high levels of EI are generally better able to relate to others, work together on teams, understand nonverbal communication, and respond empathetically in work-related conflict. While most Read More

The Best Psychology Books for Self-improvement

Guest post by Cameron Staudacher, Presented by BetterHelp.   Nearly everyone wants to better themselves. Personal growth is an important part of development through the lifespan, and additional resources that provide useful insight are often beneficial. Many books have been written with the aim of increasing a person’s ability to improve themselves, but not all self-help resources are created equal. This Read More

Leveraging Technology to Bolster Your Self-Improvement

Guest post by Cameron Staudacher, Presented by BetterHelp.   It is easy to become distracted by stimulating technology and media in the modern world. While technology has undoubtedly been a boon to entertainment, it also provides avenues to simplify and facilitate your self-improvement. Modern technology lets you bolster your growth by helping you stay organized, stay motivated, set goals, and Read More

Dealing with a resistant toddler… or adult

My 3 year old daughter’s got a new thing she likes to say to me when she’s upset. Don’t look at me! or Don’t talk to me! – words to that effect. When it first started, it was brutal. I took it as a rejection. But what I’ve come to realize is she’s always saying this when she’s simply feeling Read More


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