Masculinity vs Femininity: The Definition Problem

I think one of the reasons we have so much drama around the terms masculinity and femininity is because of the old school dictionary definition of those terms, which basically state masculine means traits exclusive to men, feminine means traits exclusive to women. These are nonsense definitions. There’s no such thing as a trait that only men do, or all Read More

What is Hostile Attribution Bias? (Why you think people are always trying to hurt you)

If you enjoyed this video, you can buy me a beer to support my work! Hostile attribution bias is the official term for assuming that someone has a malicious intent. It means when somebody does something that you don’t like or that you disprefer, you assume that they kind of meant to hurt you that they were trying and Read More

People pleasing behavior vs genuine kindness

Sometimes it can be a little confusing to know the difference between people pleasing and just being a genuinely generous, kind, and helpful person. Often the behaviors are exactly the same. The key is the difference in intention. Sometimes it’s primary and sometimes it’s secondary, but with people pleasers there’s always an intention to get certain benefits for themselves; namely Read More

Stop chasing people!

Look, I don’t know who needs to hear this and I’m certainly not saying anything original here – it’s been said many times before – but in case you missed it: You should never be chasing people, ever! A healthy confident person who would enhance your life is never going to play “hard to get”. Any attempts to string you Read More

Bravery and Courage: How to overcome fear and social anxiety

The videos I’ve been putting out the last few weeks are all excerpts from one overall conversation about bravery. In this podcast, I break down the different elements of courage to give you ideas on how you can apply this to your life to give yourself more opportunities and increase your self confidence. In this episode, we cover: Bravery is Read More

Confidence Quotes to Boost Your Courage and Bravery

Sometimes we just need some confidence boosters, little practical quotes and notes in your pocket to get you through the day. So I want to share some quotes, memes and memorable sayings that’ll help boost your confidence on a daily basis in real life situations, and give you more courage in any given moment. We’ll start with some questions that Read More

The Value of Responsibility

Responsibility is the father of all the masculine values. In this video we explore what Responsibility is, as a value, and what it means to live by it consistently.     To get in touch with your core values, contact Dan for coaching >> Apply for a free trial session here <<   Full transcript (unedited) Welcome back to the Read More

Confidence vs Arrogance: Fear is not my future

A weird barrier that people have to becoming braver is they’re worried about being “too confident”. They’re worried about straying into the realm of what we call arrogance. This actually stops them from developing their courage or sense of self belief, because they think any kind of backing yourself and going for it and upsetting other people is the same Read More

When you feel no attraction for your date

A client of mine just flicked through a quick message. He says, I met a girl, we had a great chat, but I don’t have attraction 1. Is it okay to mention that? and, 2. is it okay not to get her number? In other words, what do you do next when you’ve met someone new but realised you don’t Read More

The Courage to Be Disliked

Caring what other people think of us is probably the biggest concern most people face in the lives. Our phobia of being disliked is the greatest barrier to living a full authentic life. It’s nearly impossible to behave with confidence if you cannot allow yourself to upset others, disappoint them, disgust them, or otherwise risk their disapproval. Being a brave Read More

Fear Mongering: The Secret to Courage and Bravery

Fear Mongering is the term I give to the manipulative strategy and tactics your own fear employs to control your behaviour. In this video, we’ll explore the devious tricks your mind will play on you to prevent you from taking bold actions and positively changing your life. We’ll dive into why fear does not have your long-term best interests at Read More

A feminist journalist triggered my Imposter Syndrome

Let’s talk about Imposter Syndrome. If this term is new to you, it basically describes the self-doubting fear that you are secretly a fraud, and that you’ll be exposed if you’re not careful, even though you’re trying your best to provide value and have no evidence to suggest that you are deceiving anyone or lacking in skill. When I first Read More


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