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Deep dive into PEOPLE PLEASING – with Dan Munro and Angie McQuillin

Discover masculine confidence with my Nice Guy Recovery course Coaches Dan Munro and Angie McQuillin are both experts in helping people-pleasers become more assertive, confident and honest. Dan focuses on Nice Guys who struggle in their romantic relationships, while Angie focuses on C-Suite executives who want to be more assertive in their careers. In this epic 2 hour podcast, Dan Read More

Nice GIRL Syndrome

Discover masculine confidence with my Nice Guy Recovery course I’ve been criticized in the past (and recently) for focusing too much on men when it comes to Nice Guy Syndrome. While it might seem obvious why I do this, the complaint is valid because people-pleasing is not gender-specific. In fact, all the traits of Nice Guy Syndrome can be found Read More

Making people happy is bad

You think that making people happy is a good thing, and means that you’re a good person… right? Have you ever stopped for a while to question that? “Making people happy” is the term we use to describe selfishly manipulating people’s emotions into a range that we think they enjoy (and will therefore like us more), and that we find Read More

Caretaking: when “being helpful” becomes toxic

People with Nice Guy Syndrome or People Pleasing Syndrome often pride themselves on how “considerate” and “helpful” they are, even to the point of feeling resentful about not being acknowledged or rewarded justly for their “kindness”. One of the most painful insights I’ve ever had about myself is learning that my helpful niceness was actually HURTING people more than it Read More

Caretaking: when “being helpful” becomes toxic

People with Nice Guy Syndrome or People Pleasing Syndrome often pride themselves on how “considerate” and “helpful” they are, even to the point of feeling resentful about not being acknowledged or rewarded justly for their “kindness”. One of the most painful insights I’ve ever had about myself is learning that my helpful niceness was actually HURTING people more than it Read More

How to know if you’re a people-pleaser

Few people admit to being people-pleasers, and even those who do take pride in it as if it’s a good thing to be. In this video, I define what it means to be a people-pleaser, what beliefs define this disorder, and why it’s certainly not a good thing to be! If you’ve had a string of superficial relationships, or you’re Read More

Are you a people pleaser? Find out

Few people admit to being people-pleasers, and even those who do take pride in it as if it’s a good thing to be. In this video, I define what it means to be a people-pleaser, what beliefs define this disorder, and why it’s certainly not a good thing to be! If you’ve had a string of superficial relationships, or you’re Read More

Coaching with Dan Munro: Everything You Need to Know

I’ve put this video together for anyone curious about getting coaching with me for integrity, confidence and connections. This video includes: – What coaching is – Why get coaching – Who is right for coaching (and who isn’t) – The process for getting started – Options and investment Worth a watch if you’re a Nice Guy or people pleaser who’d Read More

What is Shame and How is it Created?

Watch the video above or read the blog post version below Note: This post/video is excerpted from the BROJO University course Completely Shameless: The Secret to Confidence Let’s start by saying that shame and confidence are on a spectrum. On one end you have confidence, and on the other end you have shame. It’s very rare to have both at Read More

Why it’s bad to be “nice”

Watch the video above or read the blog post version below Being “nice” is a bad thing. As a former Nice Guy or should I say a recovering Nice Guy, who spent over two decades being incredibly nice, I speak with some authority when I say that being nice is a completely bullshit way of being. It actually does more Read More

How to Handle Criticism in 5 Simple Steps

Watch the video above, or read the written version below Unfortunately, most people’s confidence is completely dependent on the feedback they receive from others, which means a lot of people have their confidence crushed by criticism, hatred, and discouragement. Today, we’re going to talk about how to build your confidence in such a way that nobody can bring you down Read More

3 Fears Stopping You From Taking Risks

You can watch the video version above, or read the text version below One of the most important facets of everyday life is taking risks. Today, we’re going to be talking about three fears that stop most people taking risks. Risk-taking is simply engaging in any behavior where you feel that there is a medium to high likelihood of failure. Read More

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