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[Short] Why People Pleasers get nervous in group conversations

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Why You Find Other People Too Boring

  Build better connections with my Powerful Honesty course Do you struggle to connect with people because you rarely find them interesting? Or perhaps you struggle to pay attention while speaking when you’re nervous or unsure of yourself? People may not be as boring as you think they are, in this video we explore the real reason behind this problem. Read More

How to stop taking things personally

Accelerate your social and love life with my Overcoming Fear of Rejection course on Udemy Taking something personally means to assume that a critical piece of feedback or an offensive opinion is somehow directly relevant to you, and presents a threat that you need to defend yourself against. Taking it personally is probably the #1 cause of conflict in relationships, Read More

How to make new guy friends

One of the biggest struggles we see in the BROJO community is adult men trying to find other guy friends. There is absolutely no training or support with this, and most guys don’t know where to start. So if you’ve moved to a new city, or simply never really had any truly masculine male friends, this video will break down Read More

Watch out for Agent Smith

As per the Matrix, Agent Smith is waiting around every corner to prevent you from breaking free. In this video, I rant about how even your closest friends and family might suddenly and inexplicably turn against you and discourage you from doing what’s best for you. Dan’s Top Resources The Naked Truth: Using Shameless Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections Read More

The Peanut butter sandwich metaphor

Do you think that other people hurt your feelings? When you get criticism, negative feedback, rejection, insults or other bullying, do you believe that someone else has caused you pain? Today, we’ll explore the truth about how to deal with hurt feelings, by exploring the unlikely analogy of someone making you a peanut butter sandwich… Dan’s Top Resources The Naked Read More

[Series] Honest Politics part 1: The Problem with Democracy

I was recently inspired by Ryan Holiday’s new book Lives of The Stoics for many reasons, but one in particular has prompted this article today: the decision by the Stoics to eventually get involved in politics. Up until about the third wave or so of the Stoicism philosophical school, the Stoics had kept their noses out of politics and refused Read More

Still single? Don’t worry about it…

Watch the video above, or read the written version below Now if you’re like most people, you’ve been raised with a very simple, ingrained belief that you barely ever question: “It’s better to be in a relationship than it is to be single.” Some of you have since changed this belief to the opposite: that it’s better to be single Read More

Covert Contracts: The Relationship Killer

Watch the video above or read the transcript below A ‘covert contract’ is a death sentence that destroys the health of any relationship. I first heard the term coined by Dr. Robert Glover in his book No More Mr. Nice Guy. I’m not sure if he’s the one who made it up or not, but I’ll give him credit for Read More

Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection & Abandonment

Watch the video above, or read the transcript version below Today we’re going to be talking about something deep and dark: the fear of abandonment. This is the one fear to rule them all. It’s the secret fear underneath all of your problematic behavior in the social world and you’ve probably never even heard of it. What is the fear Read More

3 Lessons we MUST learn from the Christchurch terror attack

In case you’re somehow unaware, my home country of New Zealand suffered its worst ever mass murder event on Friday. A white supremacist, assisted in some way by accomplices, stormed two mosques and indiscriminately shot those inside, killing 50 men, women and children, and wounding as many more. Support First, let me offer support in the only way I can Read More

Overcoming Shyness When You’re an Introvert

In the video above, I’m cross-dressing in my girlfriend’s robe. In case you’re wondering, the reason is because technically I’m an introvert. I want to show you that I’m happy to do something slightly silly in a public forum whilst also being introverted. It doesn’t stop me from doing that. But I want to talk about how some people are Read More

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