How to make new guy friends

One of the biggest struggles we see in the BROJO community is adult men trying to find other guy friends. There is absolutely no training or support with this, and most guys don’t know where to start. So if you’ve moved to a new city, or simply never really had any truly masculine male friends, this video will break down Read More

Watch out for Agent Smith

As per the Matrix, Agent Smith is waiting around every corner to prevent you from breaking free. In this video, I rant about how even your closest friends and family might suddenly and inexplicably turn against you and discourage you from doing what’s best for you. Dan’s Top Resources The Naked Truth: Using Shameless Honesty to Enhance Your Confidence, Connections Read More

The Peanut butter sandwich metaphor

Do you think that other people hurt your feelings? When you get criticism, negative feedback, rejection, insults or other bullying, do you believe that someone else has caused you pain? Today, we’ll explore the truth about how to deal with hurt feelings, by exploring the unlikely analogy of someone making you a peanut butter sandwich… Dan’s Top Resources The Naked Read More

[Series] Honest Politics part 1: The Problem with Democracy

I was recently inspired by Ryan Holiday’s new book Lives of The Stoics for many reasons, but one in particular has prompted this article today: the decision by the Stoics to eventually get involved in politics. Up until about the third wave or so of the Stoicism philosophical school, the Stoics had kept their noses out of politics and refused Read More

Still single? Don’t worry about it…

Watch the video above, or read the written version below Now if you’re like most people, you’ve been raised with a very simple, ingrained belief that you barely ever question: “It’s better to be in a relationship than it is to be single.” Some of you have since changed this belief to the opposite: that it’s better to be single Read More

Covert Contracts: The Relationship Killer

Watch the video above or read the transcript below A ‘covert contract’ is a death sentence that destroys the health of any relationship. I first heard the term coined by Dr. Robert Glover in his book No More Mr. Nice Guy. I’m not sure if he’s the one who made it up or not, but I’ll give him credit for Read More

Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection & Abandonment

Watch the video above, or read the transcript version below Today we’re going to be talking about something deep and dark: the fear of abandonment. This is the one fear to rule them all. It’s the secret fear underneath all of your problematic behavior in the social world and you’ve probably never even heard of it. What is the fear Read More

3 Lessons we MUST learn from the Christchurch terror attack

In case you’re somehow unaware, my home country of New Zealand suffered its worst ever mass murder event on Friday. A white supremacist, assisted in some way by accomplices, stormed two mosques and indiscriminately shot those inside, killing 50 men, women and children, and wounding as many more. Support First, let me offer support in the only way I can Read More

Overcoming Shyness When You’re an Introvert

In the video above, I’m cross-dressing in my girlfriend’s robe. In case you’re wondering, the reason is because technically I’m an introvert. I want to show you that I’m happy to do something slightly silly in a public forum whilst also being introverted. It doesn’t stop me from doing that. But I want to talk about how some people are Read More

Why am I uncomfortable receiving compliments?

Welcome back to Ask Dan Anything. Today, I came to realize that people are really uncomfortable receiving praise and compliments. I know I used to be like this. I was stuck in this weird loop. As a Nice Guy people-pleaser I was constantly seeking validation and approval but whenever somebody actually gave it to me I was very resistant to it. Read More

“Let’s Just Be Friends”

This one isn’t based on a question from a specific person, but it’s about something that’s come up many many many many many times with the people have worked with. “Oneitis” The term oneitis actually comes from the pickup artist community and is a reference to somebody who’s basically developed an adult crush. You know, the kind of crush you Read More

How to Create a Deep Emotional Connection

LIGHT V DARK Today I wanted to talk about connection – making a deep meaningful connection with other people. It’s probably an entire course on its own, but what I wanted to talk about today was a misconception around connection that held me back my entire life and really made it difficult for me to connect with people, because I Read More


3X Your Confidence for better relationships and high self-worth.