Join the Brojo community on Skool to build your confidence and relationships   Watch the video above, listen on your favourite podcast platform below, or keeping scrolling to read the full transcript Spotify Soundcloud Apple Podcasts Amazon Music   Being “nice” still isn’t working, is it? You try to please everyone – partner, boss, friends, kids – and then secretly resent them Read More

Why Do We Doom Scroll? This problem isn’t only affecting the younger Gen Z generations – nearly every age bracket is prone to this addictive behaviour. But there’s a difference for Millennials like myself: we learned to socialize before cell-phones and the internet were even a thing. I was about 14 years old when I got my first cell phone. Read More

The thing I see with a lot of people who struggle to create new friendships, especially in adulthood, is that there’s no training for how to make adult friends. That’s why a lot of us struggle—because we’re so busy looking for friends that we’re actually not doing what we really want to do and meeting people there. It’s amazing to Read More

When it comes to finding friends, what I suggest is this: instead of trying to find people, try to find activities that really make your heart sing—the stuff you really wish you had always been doing. If you don’t know what that is, then go randomly sample things. Go to open nights for courses, try improv comedy, go for a Read More

Click here to access my Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building course (worth $130) and connect with like-minded men, all for free! Tall Poppy Syndrome: Why Standing Out in New Zealand Feels Like a Crime Welcome back to Ask Dan Anything, coming to you from New Zealand! Today, I want to talk about something that’s deeply ingrained in Kiwi culture: Read More

How to Find Your People: Ditch the Checklist and Focus on What Matters Finding your people—the ones you truly connect with—is one of the biggest challenges in life. Whether it’s in social groups, meetups, or new environments, it often feels like there’s a “wheat from chaff” phenomenon. How do you efficiently find people who truly resonate with you, especially if Read More

This video is from an Ask Dan Anything session in Brojo. Dan discusses the impact that addressing your people-pleasing behavior has on your existing social connections, noting that individuals often outgrow their old networks as they build confidence and self-awareness. He argues that people tend to form relationships with others at their own psychological health level, explaining why victims often Read More

Daily Dose of Integrity One of the strangest things to think about deeply is the idea of “fitting in”, i.e. belonging socially to a group. Most people I see put nearly all of their energy into this, whether it’s at work, with their “friends”, with their family, or just generally all the time. Everything they do, every decision they make, Read More

I got a question the other day: “How can I not be affected by other people’s behaviour?” It’s a noble goal, but ultimately I think that you’re asking the wrong question. If you think of the human brain as being something like a computer, you can’t expose a computer to a new program without affecting how the computer runs. It’s Read More

I often coach guys on how to approach strangers, meet new people, and initiate new conversations. Whenever we start this kind of a coaching call, people always think that it’s a technique problem: communication skills that they need to be better at, thinking of cleverer things that they need to say. However, without fail, once we explore the problem deeper, Read More

Whether I’m helping someone build their social circle or build their business, there’s this same fear that comes up for both. It’s a kind of future-tripping overwhelm where you imagine all the potential relationships that you’ve got to create. This is fear’s little trick to put you off even getting started. It makes you feel like you’re pressured to do Read More

Today’s post is random and kind of off-topic for me: a practical tip on how to develop your career using technology. So I’ve played around with ChatGPT a few times. It’s good for some things, not so good for others. And an idea came up in a recent session with a client of mine who wants to pursue a more Read More