Join the Brojo community on Skool to build your confidence and relationships   Watch the video above, listen on your favourite podcast platform below, or scroll down for the written version. Spotify: Soundcloud: Apple Podcasts: Amazon Music: .   Being “nice” still isn’t working, is it? You try to please everyone – partner, boss, friends, kids – and then secretly resent them Read More

Transcript 0:00 Going backup recording going awesome we’re underway cool welcome along lads and today we’re going to try and answer the impossible question how do I stop caring what other people think of me and This is-it’s kind of an ironic question because while I do believe you can significantly reduce how much thought and time and energy you Read More

Daily Dose of Integrity You cannot have confidence or a good life without choosing to get emotionally uncomfortable. Building courage is simply about finding something uncomfortable to do that is also good for you, something like shameless radical honesty. Shame is the belief that there’s something wrong with you, that you’re fundamentally broken in some way. Radical honesty is usually Read More

The Insight During a recent coaching session, my client had an amazing insight. He created an analogy for caring about what other people think, and why it’s absolutely delusional to think other peoples’ reactions tell you anything helpful about who you are. So, caring what other people think generally means that you change your opinion of what you said or Read More

This video is part 1 of a 6-part series on loving yourself. Let’s tackle the struggle of self-acceptance and kindness. I’ve been frustrated that common self-love advice often lacks practical application, so I wish to provide a solution. This video looks at causes of stress, such as societal pressures and the inability to let go of control, leading to self-loathing Read More

This is an excerpt from my  course: Shamelessness: Develop Unbreakable Social Confidence The Roots of Shame: Understanding and Overcoming It Before we can effectively deal with shame, we need to understand where it comes from and what creates it. Shame often begins externally, triggered by some prompt from the outside world. It’s the feeling that a truth about you is somehow Read More

I had a client say that he was afraid of being sexy! This might sound a little ridiculous on the surface, but he’s actually expressing a fairly common fear: that you will mistakenly lead someone on by attracting them and causing them to feel interested in you against your will. They will then develop feelings for you without your encouragement, Read More

Daily Dose of Integrity A client of mine recently showed me a video of Kanye West being interviewed. Ye was asked a question, and he sort of went into a deep pause before responding. Immediately, the interviewers jumped on it. Do you need me to say the question again? Should we take a break and come back to it? They Read More

“I’m not good enough” is a narrative that takes effects nearly everyone. It’s our best kept secret. It takes many forms and hides in various ways. From comparing yourself to people you’ve carefully picked to ensure they are “better” than you, through to punishing yourself for feeling normal human emotions, there are many ways we convince ourselves that we’re not Read More