[Short] An easier way to make hard decisions

When trying to make even basic decisions, it can become really confusing in your mind when you start to ask questions like what’s right versus wrong? What’s good versus bad? This morality model of making decisions is actually really unhelpful. There are too many possible answers. If you want to be able to make decisions quicker, decisions that you feel Read More

[Short] Introverted is not the same as Avoidant

A lot of introverts think that being introverted as some sort of social barrier, that you lack in some way socially. But I think this is because being introverted is often conflated with being avoidant, which is actually an anti-social trait, and not a permanent one at that. I’ve heard many hundreds of people talking about shyness or distaste for Read More

[Short] What the video game Need For Speed taught me about confidence

I used to enjoy the video game Need for Speed. One of the things you could do in that game is you could set it up so that a “ghost car” drove next to you and showed you how to perfectly do the race. You’d try to stay in line with a car that’s racing the ideal way. And I Read More

[Short] Catching a bad day before it happens

One of the simplest ways to dramatically improve your quality of life is to do something that we call “stamping out the embers”. A bad mood or a bad day starts as something small that you allow to escalate. There are always these “embers” that warn you of a coming fire, a small precursor that you know from experience usually Read More

[Short] The real reason why you don’t want to celebrate your birthday

Some people, myself included, say that having a birthday is meaningless. “It’s just a number, it’s just an arbitrary date that humans made up.” But a coaching client of mine had a good insight about this. He thinks that people who are resistant to their birthday, even if it’s in a ‘rational’ way, are actually resistant to having their life Read More

The Not Good Enough Story life cycle

This video explores the Not Good Enough Story – a circular pattern we all follow to hold ourselves back and maintain the victim narrative.

[Short] The trick behind confident decision making

People Pleasers and anxious people make decisions from the “outside in”. They take lots of time looking for all the possible options, all the potential imagined opportunities and threats, and then they try to narrow it down to one clear winner. It’s like choosing an icecream by first looking at every flavour they’ve got and weighing up how each one Read More

[Short] The wrong way to respond to anxiety

Get your Daily Dose of Integrity with my FREE newsletter here: We often think that anxiety itself is a problem, that the feeling is a source of suffering. But our biggest problem with anxiety is the way we respond to it. Anxiety manifests in the mind in such a powerful and attention-grabbing way – the sickening physiological response and Read More

[Short] What your dreams tell you about your self confidence

Get your Daily Dose of Integrity with my FREE newsletter here:   I got a nice email from one of my former clients saying that since he did his confidence work he’s now able to beat up the bullies in his dreams. See, he used to have dreams about his school bullies when he was younger, but he would Read More

Decisiveness: Making Fast, Bold and Powerful Decisions

Join The Integrity Army for free group coaching here Many men these days regret the missed opportunities that passed them by simply because they couldn’t decide quickly and boldly. In this session, we talk about the decision-making process and the barriers that get in your way.   Full transcript (AI unedited) going you and me for now Brian okay Read More

[Short] Stop using this dangerous self sabotaging word

Get your Daily Dose of Integrity with my FREE newsletter here:   I caught one of my coaching clients using a sneaky word today: “Natural”. In the context of self-development, I’ll often hear somebody say something like, “That doesn’t feel natural to me”, when talking about a potential behavioral change. Usually what they’re talking about is an improvement in their behavior, Read More

[Short] How to stop getting distracted by self doubt

Get your Daily Dose of Integrity with my FREE newsletter here: So at the heart of Nice Guy Syndrome and people-pleasing is this yearning for a “smooth problem-free life”. It’s this vague idea of achieving endless pleasantness and happiness. And this subconscious yearning affects so many of the decisions we make. We’re always trying to make situations emotionally smooth Read More


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