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True Intentions: The Real Reason why People do EVERYTHING

Transform from Nice Guy to confident beast with my Nice Guy Recovery course We spend a large amount of our time making two mistakes: 1) paying more attention to people’s CONtent than their INtent, and 2) when we do pay attention to someone’s intentions we usually only see the surface motives and not the true intentions at the depth of Read More

Defusion; How to deal with painful thoughts

In this video, I describe 4 different mindfulness methods as taken from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for practicing the art of “defusion” – detaching and distancing yourself from negative and painful thoughts. Dan’s Top Resources Books Dan has 3 bestselling non-fiction books available in both written and audio form: The Naked Truth, his latest release, shows you how radical Read More

Control freaks: how to handle things going wrong

watch the video above, or read the transcript below Today’s post is for the control freaks amongst us; the people who find it really upsetting when things don’t go to plan, when something goes wrong, or when what they had scheduled gets disrupted by something outside of their control. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m one of these Read More

My battle with being a “highly sensitive person”

watch the video above or read the transcript below I’ve been meaning to do this video/post for a while now. Sometimes I think that it’s helpful if I’m open and honest about my weaknesses and failures and the things I struggle with, because sometimes when I create content, I give the impression that I’ve got everything ‘sorted’ and that’s absolutely Read More

Cognitive Dissonance – Disagreeing With Yourself

Watch the video version above, or scroll to read the transcript below Cognitive dissonance Cognitive dissonance is the feeling you get when two beliefs collide in your head – the feeling of disagreeing with yourself. This commonly occurs when you see yourself doing something (or not doing something) despite knowing that the “right” thing to do is something else. Other Read More

7 Steps to Stop Procrastinating

Maybe you think of yourself as a lazy person. You’re constantly procrastinating on important (and difficult) tasks you should try to complete. Don’t worry, it’s just a mindset issue. Overcoming procrastination is as simple as following the 7 steps in the video above.

Why You Don’t Feel Like An Adult

Chimps vs Humans My friend Dave must’ve been doing some late-night research around the psychology and the social development of humans, because he randomly emailed me the other day saying that a human goes through a much longer juvenile period than chimpanzees do. Turns out that’s true [1]. We humans are essentially teenagers – mentally and physically – for a Read More

negative thoughts are not controlling you

I’ve received a lot of questions actually about negative thoughts or compulsive thinking. People are worried that they have OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) some of whom might have it. I’ve already done a video on defusion which is a technique you can use to deal with thoughts. If you guys want to get your hands on that video just email me dan@brojo.co.nz Read More

Gaming Disorder: Video Game Obsession

Today’s question comes from a guy who wants some help with video games. This post/video is for guys and girls who play a lot of video games and they’re wondering whether or not it’s healthy to do so. It’s come up for a couple of my clients now and I want to address it. One of them has written through to me Read More

Do you REALLY know what you want?

In this video, we explore the hidden drives that control your behaviour, while you live under the illusion of what you think you want. Read More

How to Reduce Anxiety and Manage Panic Attacks

Guest post by Sarah Fader from Betterhelp.com Anxiety has a tendency to take over our minds and bodies. It can come out of seemingly nowhere and cause you to feel out of control. Your hands begin to shake or your heart races and you feel like it will never end. Anxiety manifests differently in different people, but across the board, Read More

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