After nearly 10 years of coaching, the numbers don’t lie: most of my clients either come directly from my YouTube audience, or are people who have binged on my video content before getting in touch. While this won’t be the case for all coaches, I prefer creating video content as my primary way of producing value, so having my clients Read More

In my coach-training program, I break the education into two streams: coaching and business. While both of these overlap considerably, each has different focuses and principles to keep in mind. So I’ve written this article by splitting the top 10 mindset princples for each category into two sections. Let’s start with Coaching. Coaching Mindset Principles Press enter or click to view image in full Read More

Below is the basic structure that my coaching sessions have when I’m meeting with someone for the first time. This is different to other sessions in the way it begins, but similar to normal coaching from about point 5 onwards. Temperature check The first thing I do is establish how each of us is feeling about the call itself. I’m Read More

Over the last week, we explored the principles of self-respect, how to not just set but enforce boundaries, and what confident people do in the face of getting a bad reaction to their assertiveness. This is but a small taste of everything you need to know to become a self-respecting person who can protect themselves and their loved ones, set Read More

When we ask what does a confident person look like when it comes to setting and enforcing strong boundaries to guarantee self-respect, there’s one factor that stands out: They can handle a BAD reaction. If you’re still reading this email series, odds are you’re someone who struggles with the blow ups, guilt-trips, accusations, crocodile tears, and other manipulative reactions to Read More

You’ve clearly expressed (or at least indirectly hinted) what you want, or don’t want. They KNOW what hurts you, and what you’d prefer they do instead. And still, they Just. Keep. Doing. It. There’s a heartbreaking truth I’m forced to face in my sessions with coaching clients: They think the “hard part” is SETTING the boundaries, i.e. confronting people and Read More

Which of these painful things happened to you this month: Interrupted like what you were saying wasn’t important? Mocked, teased or bullied for having normal human reactions? Insulted and criticized like a child by someone who’s nicer to everyone else? Had your ideas and suggestions dismissed as if they were stupid? Ignored and treated like you didn’t even exist? If Read More

This week, you got a taste of the complete system for recovering from Nice Guy Syndrome and becoming a confident person. Taking on conflict and confrontation assertively instead of people-pleasing or avoiding Finding the third option that’s neither Nice nor Nasty – the confident option Overhauling your belief system and installing a new set of principles that guide you without Read More

The old version of you, which you’re now starting to overcome, was trapped in a miserable universe. He saw the world as a black and white set of social rules, where it was his duty to make everyone else feel good, even if it made him feel horrible. He had to sacrifice his dreams, desires and goals if they ever Read More

You’re at the same old cross-roads again. You can either be “nice”, which usually means sacrificing what you want and hiding your truth, leading to resentment, loss of opportunities, and lower self worth. Or, you can be a jerk, and selfishly do what you want while hurting everyone else and hating yourself for being a bad person. It feels like Read More

You’re like a chameleon, changing who you are to suit the environment. If you’re with your partner, you try to be the easygoing guy. When you’re hanging with friends, you try to be the cool funny guy. In a meeting with your boss, you try to appear conscientious, intelligent and reliable. You worry what people will think, adjust to what Read More

Watch the video version above, listen on your favourite podcast platform below, or scroll down to read the written summary Soundcloud: Spotify: Apple Podcasts: Amazon Music:     The Hidden Narcissism of People Pleasers Most nice guys and people pleasers think their problem is that they’re too kind. Too generous. Too thoughtful. Too compassionate. Too selfless. But what if that’s Read More