To go up to someone and just say, “I think you’re attractive. I wanted to say hi,” is one of the most significant moves you can ever make in your life.

If you can become fearless about doing that, the whole world opens up to you.

And the thing is, you don’t have to go from 0 to 100.

You can desensitize yourself to this slowly. I’ve got a whole podcast on that—get in touch with me if you want the link on how to build this up.

But in simple terms, just fill your calendar with social activities—classes, clubs, parties, whatever it is you’re into.

Make sure there are three or four group activities you’re going to every week, based on doing something you love. That should be the primary motive, but it should also be filled with your kind of people.

Then, introduce yourself to people there and slowly increase your courage when it comes to expressing interest.

You’ll get so much more return on investment than you would using an app—and that doesn’t even include the return on investment for your own self-development: your confidence, social skills, communication, and overall enjoyment of life.

It’s just such an obviously better choice.

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