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People pleasers have an unfortunate habit of presenting themselves weakly. They lack assertiveness training and therefore have bad body language, posture and voice tone. This makes people disrespect them, partly because they don’t respect themselves! In this video, we explore why people pleasers and nice guys (or guys with nice guy syndrome) struggle to get respect, and how their weak communication skills often lead to misunderstandings, creepiness, or just a feeling that what they have to say simple is not good enough, creating the toxic shame that kills self confidence.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

08:35 General issues

11:57 Why this happens

17:06 Solutions


Full transcript

So recently I did a short video
about people pleasers sounding weak,

kind of criticizing and
pointing out the fact that nice

guys and people pleasers have a
weak way of expressing

themselves verbally, that causes
them to be disrespected. Now

that got a fairly mixed
reaction. So I thought I’d

expand on it here, explain a
bit more about why this happens,

what it looks like, why it
causes you to be disrespected,

why it causes you to ruin your
confidence, and why it’s such an

important thing to work on
first when you’re trying to

recover from people pleasing and
nice guy syndrome.

Now, there are actually lots of
different categories of people

pleaser, and I’ve covered that
in different material. For now,

I’m just going to focus on two
different types which are kind

of the introverted and the
extroverted, because they do

present differently. Both have
weak presentations, but in a

different way. So in general,
the more introverted type people

will tread softly and gently
with the way that they express

themselves. They take the path
of least resistance to try and

avoid disapproval as much as
possible, they’re trying to do

as little as possible that might
provoke a bad reaction. So

they’ll take the bass and the
balls out of their voice – and

this applies to men and women
equally – they’ll kind of pitch

the voice up and sort of soften
it, like you’d talk to a baby or a

puppy, or like customer service
people talk to you, there’s kind

of a gentle voice that doesn’t
have any kind of threatening

tone to it. And they tend to end
sentences with an inflection.

Like they’re asking a question.
Like, they’re not sure about

what they’re saying, maybe? And
creates this tone of

like, I’m not really committed
to what I’m saying, I’m not

really sure of what I’m saying,
I’m open to being challenged,

I’m open to changing my mind. They
also do this, of course, with their

content, they tend to choose
middle ground perspectives, like

they might argue for or against
something, but in such a way

where they’ve got a backdoor,
they can easily change to the

other side of the argument if
the disagreement gets too

intense. They pick and choose
not only the way they present,

but what they say, with plenty
of Get Out of Jail Free cards.

They’re never fully committed into
the thing, so that they can avoid a

confrontation. Some of them at
least tend to interview rather

than share equally. So if you’re
in a conversation with them,

you’ll find that you’re giving
all the information and they’re

provoking you into doing
that. So they share very little

about themselves and they seem
to be running on a program where

if they get you talking about
what you want to talk about and

ask you questions, it’s the
safest conversation they can

have, they can’t possibly
accidentally provoke you with

things that are true about
themselves. And they can just

ask sort of gentle softball
questions that get you talking

about the things you love and
the things that you always feel

agreement about. They have eye
contact issues, I won’t say they

just avoid eye contact because
that’s not always the case,

though, of course, a lot of my
clients do feature somewhere on

the autistic spectrum, even the
high functioning ones. So

sometimes the eye contact thing
is just a kind of inborn problem

that they have. But what I find
with introverts is they’ll avoid

eye contact while they’re
speaking, like they don’t want

to face you, they don’t want to
see that disapproval, they don’t

want to come across as too
assertive or aggressive. But

when you’re talking, they might
overdo the eye contact, like

they’re deeply enthralled with
what you’re saying, they’re deeply

committed. Another way we could
separate these categories, not

just introvert and extrovert,
but anxious and avoidant

attachment. It’s just introvert and
extrovert happen to align with

those quite strongly in my
experience. So the anxious

attachment style also will
cling to the other person,

let them do all the work, while
they do everything they

can to not lose the person. So
generally, the introverted

anxious type will present in
such a way that emphasizes the

other person’s higher status.
You always feel like your

superior when you’re talking to
them, they make you feel that

way. And they’ll do whatever
they can to ensure that you feel

that way. Whereas extroverts and
avoidant attachment people

pleasers a nice guy as you get
almost the opposite, but still

crazy kind of approach
happening. So generally, what

they’ll do is they’ll try too
hard to get your attention and

keep your attention. Even when
they try to look cool and

apathetic they’re still trying
hard to look like that,

and if you have even some
social intuition, you’ll see

that they’re trying too hard.
You know, that the staunch face

is a little too staunch and the
‘negs’ and everything they use

is just a little too tactical.
But generally what they’re

trying to do is seek approval.
So whereas the introverted

anxious people try to avoid
disapproval, avoid rejection,

prevent it from happening. The
extrovert avoidant type person

will actually try to manufacture
approval, they’ll make

you like them. And that’s their
general approach. But there’s

lots of exceptions to everything
I’m saying. Some people sort of

slip through the cracks. But
I’ve worked with 1000s of

people in this category now and
there definitely are themes. So

the extrovert avoidant types you
might see they’re talking louder

than is needed, center
of attention type stuff. So

that’s kind of rare if they’re also
socially anxious, but you’ll see

them interrupting.

They do story stealing, and joke
stealing, they always try to top

whatever is being talked about,
they want to be the punchline of

the conversation. So if someone
says something funny, they’ll

top it with something even
funnier, and kind of steal the

thunder, or they’ll beat you in
the story. You know, “I had this

thing” “Oh, you had that? You
should see what I had!”

And they’re always trying to be
the bigger person, in the spotlight,

the center of attention, trying
to show off basically, and they

think it works. And sometimes it
does, it can work actually, very

effectively. Just look at any
stand up comedian: it’s a very

effective form of avoidance
style people pleasing. They

will ramble. So this is the more
anxious types: they’ll ramble,

refuse to cut threads, just keep
talking, stacking topic on topic.

Over explaining themselves, giving
too much justification, too much

rationale. And they’ll kill
silences. They don’t let people

just sit quietly. They certainly
don’t allow awkward silences to

occur. So they will just fill that
space with blather. And they’ll

kill tension as well. So if
there’s any tension rising,

they’ll kill that with humor or
distraction, topic changes,

things like that. They don’t let
things get heated. They won’t

let other people have a
confrontation. They’ll step in

and moderate and mediate it.
They can’t shut the fuck up!

Basically, can’t let people feel
uncomfortable emotions. I say

“they”, I’m talking about my past
self here, right, I get it.

Avoidant types will ask
questions that aren’t really

questions. They’re more like
statements that show off. I

remember seeing this a lot when
I was in university, you’d always

get that prick who you just wish
would just sit down. And maybe I

was that prick actually. Every
time they got up to ask a

question, it was five minutes of
ranting. And there wasn’t even

really a question. It’s just the
guy trying to show how much he

understood the teacher or how
much he knows or that he’s

better than the teacher. So
sometimes you’ll get the

extrovert type, they’ll ask you
a question but they’re actually

showing just how amazing they
are to have thought of that

question. That kind of thing
where they hide statements in

questions. And they tend to be
overly sensitive to dissent and

disagreement. They
actually might be quite

argumentative, tribal, they get
outraged, especially on the

internet where there’s no risk
of getting punched in the face.

kind of thing. They’re
resistant. They’ll say, “Yeah, but”

a lot. So no matter what you
say, they’ve got to resist it in

some way. They can’t just agree
with it wholesale. So

the introvert types are much
more agreeable, like let’s just

not rock the boat. Whereas the extrovert
type is more dominant. They’re

like, I’m going to try and get
you to agree with me to force us

into agreement. Agreement is still
the goal, and I’ll back down if

I can’t get you to agree. I’ll back
down so at least we agree.

But rather than the shortest path
the introverts take, the

extrovert will actually try to
control you into agreement,

they’ll try to dominate you. I
used to be this type of

extrovert and there’s still bits
of it in me. And then there are

certain things that both do,
that are general to nice

guys and people pleasers and
don’t really belong to any

particular category,
specifically. Hunched posture,

indicating fear and self
protection. The

leader of the pack opens up all
of this area. In any type of

mammal, the dominant confident
member of the pack will open

this area saying, “Go ahead and
try and bite me” kind of thing.

It’s a very open area. It shows I
feel secure in myself, I feel

like I can protect myself. And
what you’ll notice is the

classic IT hunch with a lot of
nice guys and people pleasers, or

crossing of arms, that kind of
guy holds his beer like this,

when he’s at the pub. Just this
protection of this area in

general. And chin down, head
down, shoulders down, the thing

that says I’m trying to take the
least amount of space as

possible. They might even be
that they don’t spread

their legs out when they sit
down on a chair, especially say

in a bus with shared seating or
anything, they try to stay

within the lines so they don’t
interfere with anyone else’s

space physically. They’ll often
do this with the volume of their

voice as well. They’ll try to
restrict it to just the person

they’re talking to, which
usually means it fall short and

they’re hard to hear. And they
try not to invade other people’s

space. Nobody who’s not
involved in the situation gets

to hear, with the exception of
the show off who’s trying to get

other people to hear so that he
can bring them into his circle.

They’re weak with eye contact in
general. So you ask any sort of

nice guy, “What was the eye color
of the person you’re just

talking to?” and he’ll be like
“…”, because he was too busy

staring at her chest, or the
chin, or the ground or anything

that was more comfortable to
look at – anything that doesn’t

create intimacy and
confrontation. They’ve got a

gentle customer service voice.
Like I said, the extroverts can

be exceptional here but the
general rule is take the bass

out, speak really nice, speak in a
way that nobody’s gonna get too

upset with this. That voice!
Oversharing to anticipate and

defuse objections. So people
pleasers will speak in such a

way where when they’re finished
speaking, they’ve hopefully

negated any chance of a
confrontation, any chance of a

conflict, any chance of being
disliked. So as they’re

speaking, they will overthink,
they’ll consider all the

possible things they’re saying
and how those ramifications go.

The ripple out effect of the
emotions that they’re causing

everyone. And if they feel that
“Oh shit, I’ve gone off track, I

might be upsetting someone,
offending someone, confusing

someone”, they’ll quickly throw out
extra stuff to try and cover

that. Now, it’s amazing how
often I’ll be talking to one of

my clients, especially early on
in our work, and I’ll ask him,

“What would you like to
talk about today?” and it will

take him five to 10 minutes to
get to the point, because he’s

doing so much kind of
anticipatory work. He’s saying

“Well, there is this thing, I
hopefully you think it’s a good

thing to work on. But, you know,
I’ve been thinking about it a

lot. And maybe it is important,
because there’s other thing

happened”… and I’m just sitting there
going like, What the fuck are we

talking about? But he wants to
lay this groundwork first, make

sure that by the time I hear it,
all possible objections have

happened. It’s this great sense of
suspense that usually just

leads to confusion and boredom,
which backfires. People pleasers

tend to tolerate bullying and
disrespect. They’re very non

confrontational. I mean, if
you’ve watched any of my work, a

lot of it’s about confrontation
and managing manipulation. But

generally, the hallmark of a
people pleaser is that you can

get away with treating them
poorly. And fake laughs and fake

smiles, which is the body
language version of agreement,

right? Nodding. It’s kind of
like if you’re in a team

meeting, and you say something,
that it’s both unfunny,

offensive, and they disagree
with, you’ll get a smile and a

nod from the people pleaser.
They’ll laugh at jokes that

aren’t funny, that kind of
thing. Why? Why do people behave

in such a ridiculous way that
has no real obvious benefits?

Well, the innate belief of the
people pleaser is that we are

supposed to control other
people’s emotions. Keep them

within a narrow band of
pleasurable sensations and

comfortable, familiar sensations
so that they’ll behave in a way

that doesn’t upset us. And we’ll
remain in a comfortable band of

familiar emotions. So we’re
controlling others to control

our own comfort. Our comfort
depends on them behaving in a

approval type way towards us, to
validate us and make us feel

safe. And so we please them to
please ourselves. That’s the

innate system that everyone
works off. And if that doesn’t

sound like it’s going to work
very well; I’m here to tell you,

it doesn’t! At least, not once they get
into adulthood. So this affects

way more than just what you say.
It affects how you say it, how

you hold yourself, how you walk,
it affects everything. You are

this constant presentation of
yourself, this constant expression.

And people pleasing pours out of
you all the time, almost like a

vibration. And I’m not a
spiritual person. But I can

walk through a crowd and spot
people pleasers, and they

haven’t said a word to me yet.
And I don’t think I’m the only

one. That’s not some psychic
ability. They’re obvious, right?

They are obsequious in the way
they act. They’re

supplicants. They just kind
of stand out as people who even

if they’re putting on a show,
they are trying too hard. They

want that approval, it just
shows. Now, of course, people pleasers

convince ourselves that
this approach is genuine. This

is who we really are, it’s who we
really want to be. It’s

respectful. It’s kind. And even
that we’re like a role model,

like we’re showing everyone how
they should be, despite the fact

that we secretly admire and even
envy others who are way

different. Who are assertive,
who respect themselves, who are

willing to confront and stand up
for what they believe in, who

speak with certainty. We admire
those people. And then

we talk ourselves into believing
that we need to speak a

different way and present
ourselves differently.

A lot of times people pleasers
are just not aware that they’re

doing this, they lack a lot of
self awareness about the

nonverbals of their expression,
so to speak, the tone and pitch

and everything. And so often
during coaching

sessions, I’m pointing out these
little flaws to my clients, and

they’re just totally not aware that
they’ve ever been

this way. And then they’ll watch
the video afterwards and just

kind of be shocked, like, “Jesus
Christ. Am I always doing it?

It’s horrible. Now I can see it.
I can not see it. It’s

irritating. How would
anyone respect me if I’m doing

this?” And this is why it’s such
a big deal, because these little

things have a big impact if you
want to be respected by others

and eventually respect yourself.
These little things are keystones,

they’re not just some little
extra bit, they’re most of it. Most

of what we express is body
language, tone. It’s not the

actual content that matters that
much. And so most of the

information that people are
getting about us isn’t to do

with the words. And so people
pleasers and nice guys get into

a self sabotaging cycle: you
disrespect yourself, which

provokes other people to
disrespect you. I mean, they’re

trying to get feedback from you
on how worthy you are. And

you’re telling them “Not very”, so
they go with that. And you take

that disrespect as negative
feedback about yourself, like

there’s something wrong with me.
You worry that they won’t like

you and your solution to fix
that is to double down on the

very people pleasing stuff that
made them disrespect you in the

first place. And around and
around you go. And this is why

the people pleasing strategy
that worked for children, and

people who aren’t expected
to be assertive, just starts to

fall to pieces when you become
an adult. By the time

you’re 40 and married with kids,
nobody respects you, and this

doesn’t work at all. And you
just keep doing more of it. Like

thinking, “I’m just not doing
enough. It used to work, I just

got to double it.” It’s not going
to, it’s only going to get worse.

So not only is it unattractive,
and hard to respect, but it

kills your own confidence.
When you speak about

yourself in this way that’s
moderated, where you lie, where

you water it down, where you
present it weakly like you’re

not sure of yourself, you’re
giving yourself feedback. And

their feedback is, “What I have to
say is not worth saying, it’s not

valuable.” Now, if you’re giving
yourself that feedback multiple

times per day, basically every
time you interact socially, for

years and years and years until
it’s decades and decades, is it

any surprise that you don’t like
yourself? That you’re not proud

of who you are? That you’re not
even sure of who you are? That

you wouldn’t recommend you to
others? Come on; you’re your

own worst enemy here. So of
course, what should we do about

it? Gonna get real practical
with you here. I’m telling you

right now: prioritize this. Spend
a month going hard out on this,

and that’s 50% of the work done.
I’m not even bullshitting you,

maybe more. It’s kind of like a
wedge that carries everything

behind it. If you work on getting
your body language and your

assertiveness of expression
correct, your confidence follows

it. Right? There’s literally
studies that show that posturing

confidently increases your
serotonin. Well, standing up for

yourself, speaking concisely will
get different results as well,

and make you feel good about
yourself. So your confidence

will follow the behavior.
You got to act right first and then

you feel good. List everything
you can think of that you do to

moderate your expression for
other people, whether it’s

trying too hard, or suppressing,
or both, all the various tactics

you use to be more pleasing in
the way you express yourself and

less confrontational. Now it can
be hard to see these things. So

I’ve got a few ideas as to how
you can figure it out. Film

yourself, film yourself talking
as much as you possibly can. Try

and talk like you’d usually
talk, especially in a situation

where you’re not socially
comfortable, like try to talk

about an idea that you’re not
sure of and film it. And then

watch the tape. Watch the tape
with the mute on so you can see

your body language, and then
watch it with the sound on so

that you can hear just exactly
what you sound like as if

somebody else was talking.
Listen for the things that I’ve

been talking about in this
video. Ask other people for

feedback. If there’s some safe
people in your life, go and tell

them, “Look,I’m working on this
people pleasing thing, trying to

build my confidence. What do you
notice about me that makes you

think this guy doesn’t have much
confidence? Or this guy’s hard

to respect? Be brutal
with me, tell me what are the

things I do that make it hard
for you to respect me?” One way

to figure this out – and this is
a general rule for building

confidence – is what’s the
difference between when you’re

comfortable and feeling
confident, at least temporarily,

and when you’re not? So, many of
you will have someone that you

feel okay around and safe
around, maybe a best friend or

family member or whatever, a
partner. And you’ll notice you

talk differently with them.
You’ll be more expressive, more

assertive, more opinionated, and
so on, than if you’re in a

situation that makes you highly
socially anxious, like meeting

with your CEO, or in a big group
of people or with an attractive

woman,

whatever it is. And try to
experience two of those

situations as close together as
possible, and then step back and

go, “What was the difference? How
was this guy different to that

guy?” And you’ll see this list of
stuff come out,

usually a do’s and don’t do’s.
And that will give you a sense

of what the tactics and
moderating behaviors are that

you do that could change. Because
you know how to do it here, just

need to transfer it over here. Once
you’ve got this list together,

and it can just be a draft that
you keep adding to and adapting,

review it after every
significant social interaction.

Review it at least once a day,
and choose some social

interaction that you thought
either went well or was full of

people pleasing, and have a look
at the list and tick off the

things you did, and just notice
it. What you’re trying to do is

bring this into your conscious
awareness and make it something

you notice when it happens. Like
you will notice that you’ve

taken the bass out of your
voice, you’ll notice that you’re

nodding and smiling just because
she’s attractive, or whatever,

you start to see yourself do
it. And then you actually have a

chance of intervening, because
the first step is to just stop

fucking doing it. Do nothing
rather than do this moderating

shit. If you can’t
tell the truth, at least don’t

lie. Once you’ve got a clear
awareness of your list, then you

can start the basic work, and the
basic body language work is kind

of two things. One is open up
this area. It’s a real simple one.

Shoulders back, chin up,
chest out, like, I don’t care.

if you bite me in the neck, I’m
ready for it. At least every

half hour or so remind yourself
to open that area up. When you’re

talking to someone especially,
try to keep your chin level,

try to keep eye contact, like
just keep this area open.

It’ll do wonders for your
neurochemical balance if

nothing else. And the second
thing is start to project your

voice with bass., male or
female it doesn’t matter. The

gentle voice that people do is a
removal of bass. So you have the

bass, but you’ve taken it out.
Some of you, and especially the

female clients I’ve had,
actually go to the point of

putting on a little girl voice,
which by the way is really

obvious and really hard to respect,
and we can tell the difference

between when it’s natural and
when it’s put on and learned. But

basically start putting some
fucking balls or ovaries if you

prefer into your voice. Like if
I’m talking to someone who’s one

meter away from me, I talk as if
they’re two meters away, I talk

past them. If you think of the
sound traveling and then falling

down in an arc as it goes over
distance, you want to make sure

that it hits them at the high
point and falls down behind them

not falls down in front of them.
If you find that people can’t

hear you, especially in crowded
or loud environments, it’s

because you’re only talking to
them. And so they get the drop

off. You want to talk past
people, project and not

shout. So this is about turning
up bass, not volume. And opening

up this area will actually help
a lot with that because this is a

diaphragm issue. You can
practice this at home by putting

a phone or recording device to the
other side of the room and

practice talking loud enough and
with enough bass that the

recording sounds like you’re
holding it up to your mouth.

Another big easy win is start
being more concise with what you

say. There’s a tactic I use with
my clients called “headlining.”

And in brief, what it means is
whatever you’re going to say you

give the main point first – it’s
like a spoiler. You tell them

where this is all leading. So
rather than than big, long

winded statement that eventually
with bits and pieces, turns into

some sort of point or some sort
of perspective, give them that

upfront, like the headline of an
article. Like you’ve only

got one sentence to say it all,
and just blast them with it. And

then pause after that, and wait
for them to ask for more rather

than doing the anticipatory
thing where you explain

everything as if you’re being
interviewed and grilled. Also, end

your sentences with an audible
full stop or period. So rather

than ending in a question, where you’re
just not quite sure, end with a

full stop. Drop the bass right
at the end. So all of your

sentences should end with a
drop. That way they know you’re

done. And you’re not asking
anything, you’ve said it. You’re

fucking staking your claim in it.
It’s yours now. If they want to

fight back they can because you
made a point. This is more about

content than anything, but it’s
also going to be represented

with your body language is: pick a
side. When you’re talking about

anything, when you talk about
anything that involves opinion,

pick a side and state it like
you mean it. Now you can change

your mind with better evidence.
You can allow yourself to have

your mind changed, but until it
genuinely is changed, die with

it. Pick that battle, and
go “I disagree, and here’s why…”

And just hold it as if
you’re explaining something as

obvious as the need for humans
to drink water or the existence

of gravity or anything that you
think is beyond debate.

I don’t care about your
nobility in seeing both sides

of the story. The truth is you
actually lean one way or the

other. You know you do. You’re not
directly in the middle. So

whichever way you lean go hard
on that side until better

evidence changes your mind. But
never express yourself as if

you’re not sure, as if you don’t
know what you believe. You know!

You just got to own it. Use your hands
to make points like I’ve been

trying to do on this video, but
sparingly, not fucking spazing

around, right? Just make a
point. Use your body to say this

is what I believe. You can
practice this on video. But this

will free up your body to be a
bit looser and a bit more

confident as opposed to hugging
and killing your diaphragm and

hugging yourself like a wounded
child every time you interact.

And keep your fucking hands out
of your pockets. And lastly,

there’s the removal process. So
we’ve talked a lot about what you

should add and increase and
change. We’ve gotta to talk about

what you gotta stopp doing. Stop
fake smiles and fake laughter.

Stop nervous twitches, and
rushed movements. Stop jerks and

kind of ticks that you’ve picked
up along the way, especially

anything that you use as a kind
of signal of approval seeking.

Some people do weird things like
they blink too hard, or they

kind of laugh at the end of the
sentence instead of using a

full stop. There’s lots of
little ticks that people pick up

in order to try and sound
pleasing and try and defuse

potential confrontation. Slow
down do less. Make a

list of all the things that you
can cut out, things that

aren’t necessary, things that
aren’t representative of the

truth. Like if someone’s gonna
make you laugh, make them make

you laugh, where the laugh is
pulled out of you because of how

funny they are, or the smile is
like your face has creased into

a smile because you’re so happy
and you can’t stop it. Almost

like you’re physically, face and
body, a little bit resistant to

reacting. That’s your initial
position. So if someone does

something, I’m not showing
anything unless I feel it

provoked in me enthusiastically,
rather than manufacturing

responses like you have been
doing. You think

confident people smile all the
time? It’s not actually true.

Confident people smile when
they’re provoked into a smile.

And when they’re not, they
don’t. People that

smile all the time are using it,
like chimpanzees, to show “I’m not

threatening, look at
my teeth. I’m here just to play.”

Yeah, of course, some people are
generally sort of gregarious,

but for the most part, people
smile too often. And actually, a

poker face is usually a sign of
confidence. You’re saying, Look,

I will react, I’m not going to
suppress any emotions, but

they’re not going to pour out of
me like some dramatic diva,

right? You have to pull it
out of me. I’ll cry

when I’m genuinely sad,
I’ll laugh when I’m feeling the

humor, right? And everything
else, I just stay neutral. Now,

all of this should be running
parallel with deep inner work on

your integrity, and the honesty
of what you say and do. So those

two working together become the
two pillars of confidence,

the body and the mind
working together. But I put this

video out there because if you
only do the body stuff, it

actually pulls a lot of the mind
stuff alongside with it

if you speak more assertively.
I’m not talking about faking

anything. If anything I’m talking about
being more real. Stick with your

convictions, be opinionated, show
your true hand, with your body

with your voice. You’ll find that
your confidence comes alongside

with it. But if you’re
deliberately working on both,

like you’re trying to speak more
assertively while saying the

truth, and while doing what you
believe is right, then your

confidence skyrockets as the two
come together and move up

together. Of course, if you want
help working on that, if you

want to make sure that this only
takes weeks or months rather

than years and decades, then get
in touch dan@brojo.org This is

what I do. I’d make this journey
easy for you. If you think this

video is good, you should see
what my coaching does. Thank you

so much for watching. I hope
this helped. Please share the

video around, comment below, and
there’s a link below with access

to everything else about me, all
my work, all my contact

information, everything. So
check that out if you enjoyed

this, I’ll see you next time.

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