Even seeing other people as judgmental is being judgmental.

How do you know that they’re judgmental?

Even if they are—who are you to judge? So if you think that you’re not judgmental, you’re saying that other people are—and that, in itself, is a judgment.

There is no definition of “non-judgmental” that doesn’t actually contradict itself.

If you take care of other people’s emotions—you try to cheer them up when they’re sad, you try to calm them down when they’re angry—that’s being judgmental.

You’re saying they are incapable of managing their own emotions without your help.

If you help in any way without being asked, that’s judgmental. You’re saying, This person cannot live without me.

Giving advice—especially unsolicited advice (that is, advice you weren’t asked for)—is being judgmental.

What you’re really doing is saying, You don’t know how to live as well as I do.

Labelling yourself as good or bad, or labelling others in any way, is judgmental.

If you think of someone as a mean person, that’s a judgment.

If you think of yourself as a good person, that’s a judgment.

Treating people differently based on who they are—that’s being judgmental.

If you give preferential treatment to people you want approval from, and less worthy treatment to people you don’t—if you’re kinder to the stranger than you are to your own family, or to the homeless person—that’s all a form, or a manifestation, of being judgmental.

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