First and foremost, you’ve got to have a look at your behaviour and how it compares to what you think your beliefs are.

You might start by just writing down your basic beliefs. For example: “What does it mean to be a good person? How do I wish everyone was?”

It actually helps to ask about other people because that’s just a projection, or what do I think the most valuable traits a person can have.

These are the kinds of questions you can ask to try and identify the beliefs you have about who you are or who you should be. If you ask, “How should everyone else be?” you’re really asking, “How should I be?” but it’s easier to answer when you’re talking about other people—you know, being all judgmental—and it’s just more detached.

Then, whatever it is, you should have a big list of traits, beliefs, preferences, and so on of what you think a good person is or who you think you should be, based on what you know.

Then, next to that, in the column across from it, write: how do you behave in relation to these beliefs?

Let’s say that you think everyone should be honest.

Well, how honest are you, actually?

The words that come out of your mouth—how often do they exactly represent what’s in your mind?

How often do you deliberately lie, withhold important truths, or allow people to be deceived?

Does the behaviour line up with the belief or not?

If you think, “Yeah, everyone should be honest,” but you hide your true thoughts and feelings from people all the time, then which one are you?

You’re thinking honesty, but you are really being dishonest.

You’ve got to pick a team and align one with the other.

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