I want to challenge just how helpful and caring you really are by examining the concept of ‘caretaking’ and ‘fixing’ within the context of the Nice Guy Syndrome.

People with Nice Guy Syndrome—or people-pleasing syndrome, or sometimes called Sophia trophy—pride themselves on being helpful, caring, kind, and compassionate.

They go so far as to get upset when they’re not rewarded or appreciated for it, when they don’t get a thank you, or when someone doesn’t acknowledge all the kindness and love they’re putting into the world.

By far, one of the most painful realizations I’ve ever had in my life was understanding that all this helpfulness—this constant helping and caring I was offering—was often hurting people more than it was helping them.

To make matters worse, I realized it was driven by a selfish, albeit subconscious, motivation.

I wasn’t really doing it to help others. That’s just the story I told myself.

In reality, I was doing it for myself.

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