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WHAT IS BRAVERY – webinar notes:
Value of courage
Acting in a way that increases fear sensations
Fear is basically any form of discomfort – Uncertainty – Distraction – Nervousness – Terror – Confusion – Busyness
Courage is not strength but wisdom
You’re in a negotiation with fear, which uses underhanded sales techniques
Delay is the most common technique – Don’t know enough yet – Inappropriate – Dangerous – Need permission – Can’t be sure of your motives – It’s not fear, it’s some other reasonable reason
Bravery is about acting in spite of this counter-advice
Fear then uses ‘false support’ techniques when it sees you plan to go through with it (or have already started) – Demand more than you’re capable of – Convince you you’ve done enough to earn a break – Undermine the importance of it – it’s not enough
Building courage is about taking the hard road every time it’s available
Small but significant
Assume any resistance is fear and that you can’t trust yourself to judge which battles should be fought until you’ve proven you’ll fight any battle
3 actions to build courage
* Desensitize to your biggest fear – E.g rejection – 1-10 scale – Min. possible action – Slowly move up the scale every week – Mindfulness techniques while doing the action – Get your intentions right – your fear is mostly about attachment to outcomes, set the courage intention
Take the hard road – Choose discomfort – When presented with two ways, take the least comfortable – Once per day – E.g. park example – Cold showers – Dress weird – Upgrades e.g. call instead of text, cycle instead of drive
Always be a beginner – Make sure you do something for the first time every week – Move up to the next levels as soon as you’re 80% ready – Try it before researching how to
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