Managing Manipulation: How to Prevent Emotional Abuse

People influence you. Some people do it on purpose, to get something from you, even if it harms you. Some even do it to control you, just for their own amusement. This is what we often refer to as harmful manipulation. In this episode, I share what 7 years of battling manipulative criminal offenders for the Department of Corrections taught Read More

Burn Out

There’s one downside to being motivated: it can aggravate your fear of dying so much that you burn out through over-achieving. Then it’s Welcome to Hell! Read More

Making it Easier to be Honest

Due to fear of social rejection and scarcity mindset, most of us lie often. Why people can’t be honest? Here’s a simple strategy for easier honesty Read More

How I Have Failed

  Most of the people I’ve met who have great ideas never get started. Why? Quite simply because they’re afraid to fail. We seem to believe that if it doesn’t work out the first time, there will be some sort of shameful disgrace; a punishment that’s not worth the risk. Time and again I’ve been frustrated as I watch people Read More

Why Do We Choose to Suffer In Government Jobs?

I was driving a colleague home last night. As often happens when someone is stuck in a car with me for a long time, I dragged her into a fairly deep conversation about beliefs and their connections to careers (that poor girl). We both work for the Department of Corrections where most of the roles and jobs are at least Read More

Negative Group Talk: 3 Crazy Limiting Beliefs About Success

  I had an interesting experience the other night… A couple of friends came round and somehow the conversation got to my business. This quickly led to a conversation about success in general. I basically sat back and watched as three of my friends convinced each other that there was no point in trying to be successful business-wise, by pretty Read More