What if feels like to deal with a people-pleaser

The other day, I was in the gardening store trying to practice my Czech language skills. Unfortunately, the people-pleasing store clerk saw that I was struggling, and switched to English to ‘help’ me. Here’s what it felt like… ———————— For more personal support, contact Dan directly with your questions dan@brojo.org If you enjoyed this video, get access to more of Read More

Why People-Pleasers Hurt the Ones They Love Most

Are you a Nice Guy who can’t afford 1:1 Confidence Coaching? Check out the Nice Guy Recovery & Confidence Building Brotherhood program. It’s for people pleasers who want to become more authentic, assertive, and masculine, to achieve better relationships, unbreakable self confidence, and respect from others.  >> Click here to learn more <<   I’ve been coaching people-pleasers for more Read More

Stop People-pleasing! How Self-Sacrifice is Killing You

Watch the video above or read the transcript below People-pleasers pride themselves on self-sacrifice. They see themselves as noble – the cure to all the selfishness out there. But unfortunately, they are majorly deluded. Self-sacrifice is where you put your own needs aside and prioritize the needs, wants and desires of others. It’s where you hurt yourself to help others. Read More

The Magic Cure to Nice Guy Syndrome

Watch the video above, or read the transcript version below Nice Guy syndrome Today we’re going to be talking about how to overcome Nice Guy Syndrome[1] in the simplest, most effective way possible. For those of you who don’t know, Nice Guy Syndrome (NGS) comes from a long-term compulsion to constantly try to be seen as a “nice” person. It’s Read More

Escape The Prison of Perfectionism

Today we’re going to be talking about the probably most common modern plague of today’s psychology – the idea of perfectionism. In the mind of a perfectionist, they are somebody who achieves things to a very high standard consistently and holds themselves to a high standard in general. In reality, perfectionism is an identity that people cling to that causes Read More

People Pleaser: The uncomfortable truth about being a nice person

You might think you’re a good person because you sacrifice your own needs to prioritise the needs of others. You might think of yourself as a nice person because you always cheer people up when they’re feeling down. You might think of yourself as a kind person because you never argue or fight or cause problems. But what if underneath Read More

You Are Not Special… But It’s OK!

Nice guys or how we call them People-pleasers and perfectionists have something in common. They are both terrified of being insignificant. We all want to matter. We want to be remembered, to have an impact, and to be important. We’re all obsessed with being good enough. But the question is WHY? What if it was ok to not be memorable, Read More

Building Social Confidence for Nice Guys

Transform from Nice Guy to confident beast with my Nice Guy Recovery course If you’re a people pleaser or suffering from Nice Guy Syndrome, this practical guide on how to build confidence will give you some action steps you can take today to build self-worth, social confidence and healthy masculinity. If you’re reading this, it probably means you’re on the Read More

Are you a people-pleaser or Nice Guy? Take the quiz

Are you a Nice Guy or People Pleaser? I want to hear YOUR thoughts and opinions! I’m especially curious to hear from people constantly stuck in the friendzone, missing out on deep and meaningful relationships because they keep things too superficial. Read More

The Big Lie You Tell Yourself

I think you are a good person. You’re trustworthy and generally an honest person, right? In that case, you should be experiencing a fulfilling and open love-life, social life, and career. So why if you are honest and good person, you’re not being rewarded for it? There must be something that you’re not seeing…