How to Free Yourself from Regret

Regret is caused by your tendency to create “counterfactual realities”. If you’re a Nice Guy you tend to only see the past as being a failure. Live by your values instead… Read More

The 7 Reasons Most Goals Fail

Hold yourself to account for your New Years resolutions? If you’re feeling stuck, sabotaging or procrastinating on your goals, try link them to your values. Read More

Why You Need To Have Confrontations

  “In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins – not through strength but by perseverance” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr. If you want to be authentic, to live by your values without fail, then you must expect confrontation. The only alternative is to be completely alone, living like a hermit in a damp isolated Read More

How To Deal With Stubborn People: Naive Inquirer

I have some coaching techniques to share with you all today. Specifically, I’m going to talk about working through resistance with clients. My background is working in Corrections, so rehabilitating criminal offenders, and pretty much about 90% of them did not want to work with me. So I dealt with highly resistant clients. The people whose behavior I had to Read More

Your Entire Life Is Controlled By These…

Every decision you make, in fact your entire life, is controlled by psychological “frames”. WHAT IS A FRAME? A ‘frame’ is the lens through which you see the world. You have thousands of frames. They allow you to understand the world and make it easier to survive through new situations. Because of your life experience, you will have frames that Read More

What To Do When Someone Disrespects You

If someone crosses your boundaries and disrespects your values, but you’ve never clearly set those boundaries with them, then you can’t complain. We had a great discussion about this last night at Brojo. One of boys is dating a lawyer, and she was demanding that he give up personal information about his friend. This really frustrated the bro because he Read More

A Beginner’s Guide to Managing Manipulation (lite edition)

  I have created an article on managing manipulation for For now, here’s a light version of the main styles of negative manipulation and how you can manage them to stay in control of your world. There are four main types of manipulation and I used to be subjected to these every day, so I will quickly go through Read More