How to stop taking rejection personally

How do you feel when someone ‘rejects‘ you? If it hurts, it’s most likely because you take it personally, meaning you think their “No” has something do with a negative quality about yourself. But what if it’s got nothing to do with you at all? ———————— For more personal support, contact Dan directly with your questions dan@brojo.org If you enjoyed Read More

The Fear of Being Judged as “Weird”

When you’re in social environments, do you notice yourself behaving differently to how you would alone, or at home? The fear of being judged as “weird” or “different” haunts the lives of many people, especially Nice Guys and artists. We are missing out on incredibly valuable insights and creativity from people simply because they’re afraid of being judged?! Why would Read More

Control Freaks: Our Dark Secrets

Many of us are self-described Control Freaks. We feel a great neediness for things to be done the “right” way (our way), for life to be problem-free and smooth, and for everything to “make sense”. When this stuff doesn’t happen, we tend to get very stressed and frustrated. In this episode, we look at the truth behind controlling mindsets and Read More

Negative Motivation: How to Use Frustration, Guilt and Fear

Watch the video above, or read the written version below Most people think of motivation as a positive feeling – e.g. inspiration, excitement, passion – but unfortunately, they’re wrong. Today we’re going to talk about the secret to motivation, an understanding that will help push you forward and do all those things that you’ve always been meaning to do but Read More

Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection & Abandonment

Watch the video above, or read the transcript version below Today we’re going to be talking about something deep and dark: the fear of abandonment. This is the one fear to rule them all. It’s the secret fear underneath all of your problematic behavior in the social world and you’ve probably never even heard of it. What is the fear Read More

You Don’t Need More Motivation

Most of us are sitting around hoping to achieve greater levels of motivation, courage and clarity before we can take the actions we wish to take. We want to be facing fear and getting on with what needs to be done. Procrastination often seems to be a problem requiring us to increase motivation. We feel like our emotions get in Read More

How to Stop Fear Controlling You

Our thoughts about an anxiety are always fear, terror or panic. These are the least likely ways that fear will prevent you from taking helpful action. It’s hard to deal with the fear.  It’s tricky, it uses manipulation techniques to control you. See these examples: – distraction (e.g. social media) – intimidation (e.g. perfectionism) – invalidation (e.g. not good enough) Read More

Fear of Success – The Truth Behind Self-Sabotage

If you’re like me, and most other people, your worst enemy is yourself. Unfortunately, this isn’t always obvious. Sometimes, you’ll truly believe you are trying your best and doing everything you can to overcome whatever the current block is for you. Yet you repeatedly fail. It seems unlikely to you that you are sabotaging yourself, because you are trying so Read More

Eliminating Rejection from Your Life

If you are scared of rejection it probably holds you back socially or it can effect your career – more than anything else. Can you imagine if it was all just your mind, that rejection didn’t exist and you could free yourself from the fear of it. I can show you how.    

Why You Suddenly Lost Motivation

Suddenly find you’re too busy, tired or unmotivated to take action any more? Confused about why you stopped caring? Maybe you’ve been tricked by your own mind… Read More