I was in a chat about neurodiversity the other day (autism, ADHD etc.) and I made a point that if you are neurodivergent – like myself – and you got bullied, it doesn’t mean that all neurotypicals hate you. It doesn’t mean that there’s two groups that are at war with each other.

But I’ve found the neurodivergent community – the ones that often commune online with each other – tend to believe this persecution exists. They think there’s a kind of war between them and the typicals.

One guy said that media articles about ADHD medication are a direct attack on him personally. Another said that he was trained to be a Nice Guy because no one wants autistic people breeding. Others simply recalled many instances of bullying and ostracism.

The believe in this war, because they were harmed in the past (or presently) at the hands of neurotypicals… or so they think (they didn’t actually professionally analyze to see if the people harming them were divergent or typical).

When we do this blaming practice – trying to identify the group that’s against us based on the behaviour of a few individuals – we become polarized and tribal. I’ve noticed the divergent community has become an island, refusing to discuss integration with the typicals and instead trying to establish a separate tribe.

I see this with political groups, sexual preferences, nationalities, races and so on. Rather than try to figure out how to bridge the gap, the “oppressed” decide instead to isolate and rage against their perceived enemy.

We forget that there’s really only two groups of humans, decent people and dickheads, and these two types of people exist in all the groups, including our own.

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