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I see a question type come up a lot in forums and that which is Am I the Asshole? So somebody will explain a situation and try to figure out if they were in the wrong or not. There’s a couple of questions you can ask yourself to figure this out when you’ve got no really reliable feedback from the external world. The first question is, would I be okay with this being done to me? So if you look at the way you’re treating someone else, you ask yourself, If somebody else treated me like that would I be totally cool with it? Now this doesn’t guarantee that you’re being a good person, but it does at least guarantee that you’re being respectful, you’re doing what you would be okay with. With The second question you can ask yourself is, do I have to tell myself a story about this to make it okay? Like, do I have to convince myself that I’m being truthful? Do I have to convince myself that this was the right thing to do? If you have to convince yourself, then it was probably the wrong thing to do.