There is no doubt that the best gift anyone can receive, is a child. When they arrive, it will undoubtedly be the best day of your life, and soon they will help you further discover your purpose in the world. Big changes will be begin to occur in your family.
The important thing to remember is that you can still find ways to keep a balance in life that will make both partners satisfied with your sex life. With that said, finding time for intimacy can sometimes be a struggle.
1) PLANNING IS KEY
Making sure you both have this to look forward to will increase the chances that it will actually happen. Set aside some time when you know it will work for both of you, and put it down on the calendar.
This will allow you to both take care of things that usually get in the way when trying to make the time. Try to go to sleep an hour earlier the night before to make sure that your bodies are well rested.
2) TAKE THE STRESS OUT OF IT
With the lifestyle adjustments, financial difficulties, and role changes that can come with a new baby, life can get pretty stressful. There are ways around this and meditating can make all the difference.
Find yourself a quiet place for only a few minutes and pay attention to your breath. Don’t focus on clearing your head, but rather where your mind wanders.
It’s said that this is a great way how to reduce your anxiety and relax your mind. It will level you out, so when you are able to have some alone time you will enjoy each others’ company.
3) GET A BOOST
Men’s testosterone levels decrease after having children. This can make it difficult for men to perform when the time comes.
There are ways to increase the libido. Sildenafil acts as a way to relax to blood vessels in the body. It helps to send blood to parts of the body that are important when the right time comes.
4) CALL A BABYSITTER
Having a babysitter can really make a difference, even if it’s only for an hour or two. It will allow for some alone time between the two of you.
Hit up a family member or friend that is close to you. They most likely would love to spend some time with your child, and it gives you some well deserved alone time. All you have to do is ask.
5) TALK ABOUT IT
The best way to get something that you want is to talk about it. According to Irwin Goldstein Ph.D., “Open lines of communication about wants and needs in the bedroom are key.”
Talk to your partner and understand where their heads at. Getting on the same page will eliminate any potential issues.
Intimacy can come across as selfish act for each person, but in reality it is a basic human need.