Nice Guys and people pleasers often get exactly the opposite of what they’re trying to get, and it doesn’t make any sense. But there’s a good reason for this.

The classic tragedy of being a Nice Guy or a people-pleaser is that your strategy to get what you want (and avoid what you don’t want) nearly always backfires on you.

Due to some very inaccurate and unhelpful beliefs people have about being a good person, the Nice Guy will push away good relationships, a satisfying career, and psychological confidence while attracting narcissists, chasing unavailable people, holding themselves back at work, and destroying their self-worth… all while trying to do the opposite!

In this podcast, I dive deep into why people-pleasing is a self-sabotaging system that always ends in misery for everyone involved.

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