If you’re like most people, you probably waste a huge percentage of your time worrying about what others think about you, and then behaving in a way that will prevent others from disliking you.

But why do we do this? What’s so wrong with being hated for who you are?

We are raised to believe that it’s good to be liked by as many people as possible, as demonstrated by politeness, giving respect to elders regardless of their behavior, and worshiping celebrities. We are told, in no uncertain terms, that it’s good to be loved and bad to be hated.

But is this true? What do we lose when we try to win someone’s love?

In this episode, we explore a world without people-pleasing and fake, manipulative attempts to make people like you. Let’s look at what letting people hate you really is: