Should I bother confronting someone when I know they’re going to react so badly that it just doesn’t feel worth doing?

Shouldn’t I just cut them out, or sort of maintain the boundary without any type of confrontation?

Firstly—what I’d say is that a confrontation should always be for you.
It’s not about changing the other person.

Confrontation is about respecting yourself.

It’s about practicing values like honesty, courage, assertiveness, responsibility.

How the other person reacts should almost be irrelevant. It’s like a bonus if they cooperate and improve their behavior—but it doesn’t matter if they don’t.

If you’re attached to their behavior, you’re never going to be good at confrontations.

You’ll either end up being controlling and manipulative—which will eventually backfire on you—or you’ll be cowardly, and you’ll struggle to express yourself.

The only way you can really win in a confrontation is when it doesn’t matter whether it works on the other person or not.

What matters is that you got it off your chest.

Ironically, if you can actually get to that place—not just as a tactic, but because you truly believe it—you’ll also be much more effective in your confrontations.

That is, you’ll also have a much higher chance of changing their behavior.

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