When you caretake too much, you disable someone’s problem-solving abilities.

You create a codependent relationship where they become unsure of themselves because they’re not put in a position where they have to handle things.

Instead, they start depending on you.

This is not good for their long-term future. You’ve essentially gaslighted them into believing they need your help.

If you’d just stayed out of it in the first place, they would have been forced to resolve the issue on their own, and would have proven to themselves that they can.

You’re enabling victimhood and irresponsibility, allowing them to believe that people will just swoop in and save them, and they won’t have to deal with things themselves.

This belief won’t serve them well in the future.

Additionally, you provoke people into feeling ashamed of perfectly normal and natural emotions like grief, struggle, frustration, or being new at something and confused.

You make them feel like they’re wrong, and that they need to move past these emotions faster just to suit your discomfort.

In reality, you’re the one with shame, and you should not be passing that onto others.

Difficult emotions, relationship struggles, and the process of learning something new are healthy challenges that everyone needs to experience.

You do not need to intervene or try to speed up these processes.

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