[Short] How the word “but” destroys your connections

Get your Daily Dose of Integrity with my FREE newsletter here: Using the word “but” – especially when giving complimentary feedback – can absolutely destroy the message. “But” is an abbreviation for “be out”. In other words, you’re saying that whatever came before the “but” is now out; “but” throws away and disregards whatever came before it. If I Read More

The Art of Exiting a Conversation: How to End Conversations Gracefully

Check out the full Building Rapport: Communication Skills to Surpass Small Talk course here: Ending a conversation can make all the difference between a healthy friendship and a sense of neediness; between a good date and an a date that ended badly. Your last impression with someone is the most memorable – the Recency Bias means that how you Read More

[Short] How to respond to passive-aggressive and indirect people

One of our biggest social dilemmas is figuring out how to respond to people who are passive-aggressive, sarcastic, or just indirect in the way they communicate. Very few people are boldly direct. Many cultures around the world encourage indirect and passive forms of communication, thinking that this somehow promotes social harmony. All to often, it only leads to miscommunication, resentment, Read More

The Problem with Asking Questions: Sharing Techniques for a More Meaningful Conversation

Get your Daily Dose of Integrity with my FREE newsletter here: If you want to develop deep connections and healthy relationships with communication skills that are authentic, you need to learn the art of conversation that doesn’t include questions. When you interview someone with questions, you imbalance the investment in the relationship and make it impossible for rapport building Read More

[Short] The conversation-destroying mistake we all make

Get your Daily Dose of Integrity with my FREE newsletter here: One of the biggest mistakes I used to make in my nice guy syndrome days, when it came to talking to people, is I’d decide what I was going to say next well before they had finished speaking. I’d assume how they were going to finish or what Read More

The Power of Active Listening: Strategies for Effective Communication

Get your Daily Dose of Integrity with my FREE newsletter here: Full transcript  This video is a an excerpt from my upcoming course on building rapport, going beyond small talk with advanced communication skills. In this video, we’re going to talk about the power of active listening, which is a strategy for really effective communication. Being able to listen Read More

[Short] Women: here’s how to get what you want from your man

Join The Integrity Army for free group coaching here There’s something I have to give my wife a lot of credit for and that is over the course of our relationship She’s learned slowly, but surely to ask for things directly instead of hinting and hoping that I’ll get the message. Not only am I a man but I’m Read More

[Short] Manipulation in relationships: When is ok to influence someone?

Manipulation is a weird concept because essentially, we’re always manipulating all the time. Everything we do has some intention, like socially speaking of changing another person’s Behavior. So we really have the question of what’s good manipulation and what’s bad manipulation, or should we say what’s helpful and what’s harmful? What’s ethical, what’s unethical? There are some key factors to Read More

[Short] Using a sandwich to boost your social skills

Take my Nice Guy Quiz to learn how to replace people pleasing with powerful confidence and authenticity: >> Click Here to Take The Quiz Today! Comment below with your opinions on this video! So, I used to be pretty much addicted to Subway sandwiches. And I used to go to the same shop, just down the road 3, 4, however many fucking Read More

IT Programmers and Socializing: How to Improve Communication Skills

TLDR: At the end of this post is a collection of my best practical resources for improving your communication skills, so you can just skip to that. But I recommend you read the rest of this article if you can find the time, because understanding what your issues are and why they happen will give you great insight into how Read More

How to stop running out of things to say with the 3X Model of Confident Conversations

If you enjoyed this video, check out more of my work, links, posts and contact details – including my FREE group coaching, here:   Full transcript Welcome back. Today we’re going to talk about how to have effortless endnless confident conversations. I’m going to show you the basic outline of the 3X Model, and how you can apply that to interacting Read More

[Short] “How do I deal with someone asking me too many questions?”

Do me a favour! Like/dislike, comment and share on YouTube to help promote my work (if you think it’s a good idea) If you enjoyed this video, you can buy me a beer to support my work! For more of my work, links, posts and contact details, this site has it all If you enjoyed this video, you can Read More


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