You decide how much is on the list of things you’ve got to do.

If you get to the end of the day and the list is undone, you made the list too big. You didn’t fail life.

I guarantee that 99% of the things on that list were not required for your survival today, so that means they were optional extras. Asking yourself to do more optional extras than you can handle is unkind.

Whatever you did is the limit.

Try the reverse: write yourself a to-do list that’s done by eleven, and then leave room to spontaneously do optional things after.

If you’re thinking, “Oh my God, I can never cut the list down”, you’re lying to yourself.

Kindness is about letting go of that attachment—and thinking “Maybe I’m actually just a normal human being”. Maybe I’m not this special, negatively special person.

I’m just a regular primate struggling with life.

Can I just be middle of the pack? Can I just be a regular person? Is that okay?

Can I let go of being something special and just blend into the other grains of sand on the beach, just dealing with life?

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