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How to tell if a girl likes you?

I just had a great chat with one of my roommates around attraction and signs of attraction: How do we know when somebody’s into us? And it’s one of the most common questions that I get from guys, and they’re often disappointed with my answer, because the answer is most the time “I don’t know.” This used to be this Read More

How to Create a Deep Emotional Connection

LIGHT V DARK Today I wanted to talk about connection – making a deep meaningful connection with other people. It’s probably an entire course on its own, but what I wanted to talk about today was a misconception around connection that held me back my entire life and really made it difficult for me to connect with people, because I Read More

3 Simple Rules for Finding New Friends

Today we’re going to look at the basic principle of making new friends and meeting new people. I didn’t realize how much of a problem this was for people until I first went to university. I’d had the same friends ever since I was a young child; we went to primary and high school together. And then I went to university, where I Read More

Should I text him first? Relationship advice for the hookup culture

Today I’m going to be answering a question from the audience. I got an email from a young woman who’s just lost her virginity to a guy and they don’t have any sort of established label on their relationship. She wants to know what I think she should do about her current dilemma. She says “I need advice, I don’t Read More

Gaming Disorder: Video Game Obsession

Today’s question comes from a guy who wants some help with video games. This post/video is for guys and girls who play a lot of video games and they’re wondering whether or not it’s healthy to do so. It’s come up for a couple of my clients now and I want to address it. One of them has written through to me Read More

You Don’t Need More Motivation

Most of us are sitting around hoping to achieve greater levels of motivation, courage and clarity before we can take the actions we wish to take. We want to be facing fear and getting on with what needs to be done. Procrastination often seems to be a problem requiring us to increase motivation. We feel like our emotions get in Read More

How to avoid small talk and go deeper

If you’re like me, you get bored of small talk. You want a deep connection but you’re feeling stuck in superficial conversations and relationships. You’d like to bring better conversation skills to your dating and social life, but you’re not sure how to stop playing safe and create some genuine, unique and interesting interactions. Check out this video on how to Read More

Self Sabotage: The 3 Lies That Rule Your Life

In this post I’m going to explore the 3 biggest deceptions you play on yourself to create a pattern of self-sabotage, and how to correct these so you can be more honest, confident and productive. The first lie is your prediction of the future, which you use to determine your decisions. The second lie is the present hidden intention behind your actions. And the third lie is the story you make up about what happened in the past, to explain your behaviour to yourself. We'll explore these lies today, and then look at what you can do to free yourself from this self-deception. Read More

Conversation Skills for Deep Connections

2-day workshop 2nd-3rd Feb 2019, Auckland NZ Create More Interesting, Attractive and Connecting Conversations No more small talk… No more superficial friendships… No more wondering why they don’t text back… Learn to stop people-pleasing and overcome social anxiety so you can transform yourself into a charismatic social leader who can create genuine interest and attraction through deep and fascinating conversations, while Read More

Do you hurt your own self esteem?

You might suspect or realise that your ongoing issues with confidence can’t directly be blamed on other people all the time. Sure, maybe you were bullied in the past, or had traumatic things happen to you, but when you’re all alone and beating yourself up, who’s doing that? When you suffer from low self esteem and low self worth, usually Read More

Inexperienced with women or new to dating?

Getting into the dating scene can seem overwhelming at first. Especially when you have a lack of experience with women, or are suffering from social anxiety. Many men looking for relationships struggle to get started, not knowing how to express attraction or becoming frustrated with always ending up in the friendzone. In this video above, we look at where to Read More

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