Relapse Prevention and Recovery: When You Fuck Up!

Working on improving yourself is hard. And of all the parts of the journey that are the most challenging, the Relapse stage has to be the worst. A Relapse is when you revert back to old behaviours. It’s when a drug addict uses again. It’s when a sex addict masturbates to porn. It’s when a Nice Guy sacrifices his integrity Read More

The Top Causes of Shame

This is an excerpt from my  course: Shamelessness: Develop Unbreakable Social Confidence There is only one emotional state that you cannot feel confident during: shame. Shame is the sense that there is something wrong with you. It’s more than guilt, which is specific to a behaviour. Shame is about who you are as a person. In this video, we explore what Read More

What is Sexual Shame and How to Know if You Have It

This is an excerpt from my  course: Shamelessness: Develop Unbreakable Social Confidence Sexual shame is possibly the number one cause of psychological suffering in the world. Everyone feels like they can’t talk about it, as if they’re the only ones. And yet after more than a decade coaching, I can confirm that nearly everyone I have spoken to has strong Read More

Happiness vs Confidence

Daily Dose of Integrity One way to summarize the struggle I see people making in my line of work is that they’re fixated on feeling an emotional sensation they find pleasurable. They want to be less angry, less disappointed, less stressed, less anxious, and more happy, more calm, more loved… that kind of thing. They want more pleasure and less Read More

How stop worrying and start living

Daily Dose of Integrity There are 3 limiting beliefs I’ve observed that cause people to worry. The first is it’s compulsory, you have no control over worrying. It happens to you. You can’t stop yourself from doing it. The second belief is it’s helpful, worrying is some form of planning or strategizing or problem solving, and you need it to Read More

The Nice Guy Smooth Problem-Free Life Tragedy

This is an excerpt from my course: Nice Guy Syndrome Recovery & Social Confidence Building Dr Robert Glover identified the most powerful limiting belief a Nice Guy has is the dream of creating a “smooth problem-free life”, where there is no emotional discomfort and everything always goes to plan. Obviously, this dream is a little flawed. In this video, Dan Read More

Are you in love with hating yourself?

Inspired by the recent Baby Reindeer series on Netflix, I’ve been considering the idea that many people love to hate themselves. While this hatred might not manifest directly as the thought “I hate myself”, it is apparent in the destructive, self-sabotaging and self-harming behaviour that many people frequently engage in. How does it look from the outside? If you were to take Read More

How to Manage Your Emotions During a Conflict

This is an excerpt from my new course: Healthy Boundaries in Relationships, Friendships and Work One of the main reasons people avoid confrontations is because they’re afraid of their own emotions. We worry that we’ll embarrass ourselves, hurt someone’s feelings, or put our career at risk when we get overwhelmed with emotions. Some people worry that they’ll cry, others that Read More

Effective Ways To Maxmise Resources As A Small Business

Discovering ways to optimize your resources, even with limited means, can be a game-changer for your small business. It’s not a daunting task, but rather an opportunity to showcase your creativity and resourcefulness. Being able to make an impact in a small way can help you accumulate visibility and build your branding and visibility to get to where you need Read More

Common Mindset Mistakes to Avoid During Confrontations

This is an excerpt from my new course: Healthy Boundaries in Relationships, Friendships and Work In this video, we talk about the importance of shifting from a win-at-all-costs mindset to finding mutually beneficial solutions in confrontational situations. I’ll stress the need for integrity, confidence, and respect, and provide strategies for handling escalating situations. I’ll advise against picking battles based on perceived Read More