A lot of people wonder, “Why do I self-sabotage? Why am I stuck? Why won’t I get my ass to the gym?” Or, “Why don’t I finally go for that promotion?”

‘Cause you’re not angry enough.

Your situation doesn’t piss you off enough — or you’re not allowing yourself to be pissed off about it.

You know, one of my favorite things to do while journaling is to write about the things that annoy me.

The more I write about them, the more annoyed I get.

The more annoyed I get, the less afraid I get — where eventually I go, “I don’t give a fuck what happens, I’m fixing this.”

And then I get into it.

However, when I was ashamed of anger, I wouldn’t allow that buildup.

I’d always talk myself out of anger.

I’d say, “You know what? It’s just the way of the world. It’s… uh… you know, who am I to complain? I’m a lucky guy. I should stop being a pussy and just get on with it.”

Because I did that, I never actually got mad enough to do anything about it.

All of those little excuses in my head to suppress anger — that was just fear talking.

It was fear and shame. It was talking me out of being angry because I thought anger was bad.

But the idea that anger is bad is a complete illusion.

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