Does people pleasing actually please people?

There’s a kind of horrible truth that people pleasers and nice guys like to overlook, and it’s this: When somebody else does it to you, it’s obvious and you hate it. Have you noticed that? My clients often go through a phase of hating other people pleasers, because once they can see it for what it is, they feel disgusted Read More

The Stoic way to deal with setbacks

I’ve calculated that the most time I’ve wasted in my life is the time spent sitting around wishing that the situation I was in wasn’t happening. It’s such a time-suck being angry and upset about the so-called obstacle, setback, barrier, or thing that “shouldn’t happen”. With a daughter who struggles to sleep and a wife beset by health issues and Read More