[Short] A hidden symptom of people pleasing syndrome
One of the hidden manifestations of the people-pleasing syndrome is that you constantly feel like you’re choosing between options. Often it’s the false dichotomy of A vs B. Other times it can feel like a broad or even overwhelming range of options. Regardless, you’ll feel like most of your decisions are a choice between available options. They’ve already been laid Read More
[Short] Why being polite is dishonest
One of my more controversial ideas around honesty is that being polite is dishonest. A lot of people don’t like this claim. They think that having manners and being polite as a good thing. Maybe it is. I don’t know. What I would suggest is the reason I say being polite is dishonest is that any thoughtless form of speech, Read More
Weeding the Garden: Knowing When Avoid Creating Rapport and When to End Relationships
Full transcript (unedited) The following video is an excerpt from my course building rapport. Going beyond small talk with authentic communication skills. If you want to see the full video or the full course, check out the link in the description or comments below. So in this video, we start to wrap the course up with talking about the opposite Read More
[Short] What the video game Need For Speed taught me about confidence
I used to enjoy the video game Need for Speed. One of the things you could do in that game is you could set it up so that a “ghost car” drove next to you and showed you how to perfectly do the race. You’d try to stay in line with a car that’s racing the ideal way. And I Read More
[Short] Loyalty is not a value
When I’m doing core values work with new clients, quite often the term “Loyalty” comes up. A lot of people think of loyalty as a value. When I use the words “core values” or “values”, I don’t actually mean “things that you find valuable”. Core Values are a set of principles that you live by. These are internal – they Read More