Why having a sick partner is dangerous!

Get relationship coaching with Dan by contacting him personally dan@brojo.org Nice Guys tend to be very caring, empathic and nurturing. Unfortunately, this can often create a real problem in relationships where their partner has long-term issues of mental or physical suffering. Dan’s Top Resources Books Dan has 3 bestselling non-fiction books available in both written and audio form: The Naked Read More

How to tackle sexual performance anxiety

Get coaching by getting in touch dan@brojo.org Performance anxiety in the bedroom is very common for Nice Guys and people pleasers. In this livestream, I tackle how to overcome erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm, and all the other anxiety related issues men experience in the bedroom. Dan’s Top Resources Books Dan has 3 bestselling non-fiction books available in Read More

You need to battle it out…

Had a conversation with a coaching client yesterday that I think applies to everyone. He has a habit of stopping whatever he’s doing whenever it goes “wrong” (i.e. failure, or doesn’t meet expectations, or he feels confused), and then he reassesses his approach to identify what he should do differently. Lots of people do this. They think they must be Read More

The #1 Threat to ANY Relationship

The number 1 threat to any relationship – platonic, professional or romantic – is CONTEMPT. Contempt is the feeling of looking down on someone from an arrogant height of superiority; seeing them as inferior, worth less, or even worthless. Dr. John Gottman’s research on relationships found that contempt was the best predictor of divorce. But this can be prevented by Read More

The 5 questions I always get asked

Here are 5 of the most frequently asked questions I get as a coach. I’ve challenged myself to try answer these in a single sentence! Not really possible, but gotta post something today, right? 1) How do I stop being so jealous of my partner’s sexual history? Realise that jealousy is actually a surface-level reaction to deeper core issues around Read More

10 secrets everyone keeps

After coaching for 8 years (and rehabilitating staff and managing offenders for about 7 years prior to that), I’ve been blessed to discover some of people’s deepest and darkest secrets. Not only that, after having literally thousands of people tell me what’s really going on behind the scenes, I’ve also seen patterns and themes. There are a LOT of secrets Read More

Roe vs Wade: The real problem

Rant.. The main reason the big issues never get resolved is because each side refuses to have empathy for the other. In the latest – the Roe v Wade abortion snafu in USA – it’s pretty clear that whoever feels strongly about this doesn’t give 2 shits about why the other side also feels strongly. They just make ungenerous assumptions Read More